| Emma--
I hear ya, as a diabetic teenager myself--once upon a time, long ago... and I'm gonna let you in on a secret--as a dad of a teenager and as a high school teacher--the adults in your life who love you, and whose responsibility it is to make sure you are healthy and safe, are doing right by you. A BG reading of 500+ every day is going to start messing stuff up in your body, I'm serious. Bad stuff is brewing there, inside you, when your sugars are that high. This is a seriously deadly disease, and in a way, it's not for kids--but we tend to do it better than adults anyway! I got it when I was 13--that was 41 years ago. The only reason I'm alive, not to mantion perfectly healthy, today, is that I had to grow up really fast and be an adult about this disease. You have to be incredibly mature to "do diabetes" well enought to not damage your body. Ok, with that much said, let's get on the the other stuff--boys.
YOU are more important that any relationship with any boy, especially at this age. And the problem here is, at your age, with hormonal stuff going on, that messes with your glucose levels. Stress also messes with your sugars. So you are forced to dodge curveballs all the time, making you more stressed, and that whackes out your hormones and your relationship with this boy--and on and on, it's a vicious cycle, a dog chasing its tail round and round. Get off the circle and sit out a few rounds--cool down, time yourself out from this boy--of boys in general--for a few weeks. You'll both survive, and hopefully you can get some control of your sugars, which will help you be a calmer, less stressed and more in-control person. Making everybody happier--you, your boy friend and, most importantly, your parents, who need to trust you for then to give you some measure of freedom and responsibility. My own son is 16 now--no girlfriend yet, and I'm just as happy--he's not dealing with the fights, the break-ups, the expectations and the craziness, thus devoting more attention to his schoolwork--and getting straight A's in the process.
Us diabetics do have to have different priorities than other teens, that's just the deal we got signed up for, like it or not. don't worry--you will learn how to do all the relationship stuff you need to and with any luck can find the guy for you someday. I married my best friend from high school 33 years ago, after never once even having a girlfriend...! Maybe it was because by then, I was so much more mature and responsible than the other jerky boys...
This disease is never easy, but it makes you a strong and disciplined person. You'll be fine--just get the diabetes under as strict control as you can.
Michael
41 years T1  | 
