| "Why Me" is NEVER the question you should ask--do not go there, okay, it leads you nowhere. When I was diagnosed, in 1965, aged 12, I whined to my mother, "It's not fair!" She answered me (words of wisdom I value to this day), "Nobody ever said Life was going to be fair honey." Indeed... When my wife and I could not concieve, my darling said it was not fair. I repeated to her my mother's wisdom, and we went and adopted a beautiful daughter, who turned 21 recently, and is a spitfire and a wonder. We adopted a 4 year old orphaned boy 10 years ago--My son begins high school in the fall... 5 years ago, when I had a heart attack and required triple by-pass, my wife wondered, "Why me?", but I thanked my lucky stars that it hadn't killed me right then and there, and that I got a second (well, third, really...) chance at life. 3 months ago, my wife of 30 years was diagnosed with rare and deadly cancer. She did (briefly) wonder "why her" and complain it was not fair. She underwent 9 hours of surgery to remove parts of her intestines, stomach, pancreas, gallbladder... Now weeks of chemo and radiation... I face it all with this attitude--our lives are a gift. Open every day with gratitude and wonder, live it with joy and in light, give more than you receive, and NEVER ask "Why me?" Just say, "Thank you" and live that day as best you can, with love and devotion. I have enjoyed 39 years of diabetes that way, 23 years of infertility that way, and 5 years of heart disease that way--yes, ENJOYED all those conditions, and the consequences that have flowed from them--my awareness of how precious my life is, how wonderful my children are, how impossibly fragile we are. Strength to win comes from belief in your ability to triumph. Go hither into this night and light it with your faith, with your joy, and with your heart. Turn the dispair of your darkness into joy thru the light of your faith in yourself.
Quit yer *****in', buck up, and do what needs to be done to become the person you need to be.
Michael
The eternal optimist, in spite of all evidence to the contrary...
Last edited by Mick : 05-20-2004 at 08:56 PM.
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