mariwood,
Let me join the Amen corner.
I have found the moderate approach to be the best for me, too. Weight loss isn't an issue for me, but good diabetes control is. I read recently that the recommended daily carbohydrate allowance for a 2000 calorie diet, for a non-diabetic, is 300 carbs per day. I have found that, based on my lifestyle and activity level, about 150-200 carbs works for me.
I agree with Harold. I haven't found a way to include a veggie with breakfast either. I also, don't believe that an exact balance at every meal is necessary.
I firmly believe that by keeping my blood sugar under control, exercising regularly and taking my insulin, I will minimize my risk for complications. I also believe that a similar plan will work for many diabetics, both type 1 and 2.
Travis