| You are correct to not be focusing on the why, and focus on the what. That will be much more beneficial to getting it under control.
Hopenopus, have you been to a Diabetes Education class? If not talk to your doctor - insurance covers it and/or he can point you to a free one. Its will be the first step towards understanding and ultimately taking charge.
Knowledge is everything with this I am learning. I have only been diagnosed a few weeks. While you need a team of specialist to help, at the end of the day you can manage it best with a little knowledge.
Oh, and this forum rocks.
Are you testing your blood glucose daily? How often and what are you/your wife doing with the results? | 
