Hi there Kubilee! Thanks for sharing your story of how your life has been going recently. Don't let those people who are calling you a monster get to you. Your story is almost identical to my family's story.
Many years ago when he was 18, my brother and his girlfriend told us that she was pregnant. They got married and got a cheap apartment and tried to make it work. As is usually the case with people that young, they aren't ready for parenthood and the loss of freedom that entails. They're young and they want to still go out and play, not come home and take care of a baby.
My brother got fed up with it and left.(he moved across the country). His young wife had no place to go (her parents were very abusive) so my mother took her in. She lived with us for almost two years. In that period, she saw that she wasn't able to properly care for a baby, so she put it up for adoption. The baby was adopted by a very nice couple who has taken excellent care of her, over the years.
Now that the girlfriend no longer had to care for the baby, my mother helped her get back in school, since she dropped out when she got pregnant. My mother treated her like one of her own kids. She took her wherever we went and bought her clothes and whatever she needed. I was still living at home, as was my younger sister.
After about a year, it was becoming a major strain on the family having her there. She was raised totally different than we were and it was causing friction in the house. Coming from an abusive family, she had to fend for herself. In our house that wasn't necessary...we always shared things. She always had to grab whatever she could in her house, in order to survive. She'd steal from us, lie to us, and was totally untrustworthy. That attitude didn't fit in with our family, and eventually it came to a head. My mother asked her to move out.
The girl accused my mother of all kinds of things, and the girl moved out with hatred for our family. Many years later, my mother got a letter from this girl, and in the letter, this girl said that she forgave my mother for throwing her out. I guess she forgot that when she was with us, for once in her life, she was treated like a human being, but in return for that treatment, she was selfish, arrogant, and childish.
With us, the girl had the best possible life she could ever hope for, but I guess it wasn't what she knew, and going back into an abusive house was the only way she knew how to live.
So Kubilee, there are many stories like yours. The thing you need to keep in mind is that you went above and beyond what most people would have done, and you took on an enormous responsibility. You did the right thing....the compassionate thing. If those other people are too blind to see that, then that's their problem. You're an excellent example of what a mother should be, and you need to know that no matter what anyone else says, you did the right thing. You can honestly say that you can live with yourself and your decisions, and you should feel good about yourself. Had you left them to fend for themselves, you would probably not feel good about it today, so keep your spirits up.....you're an A-Plus mom!
