[Tinki]

I really need to vent in a safe enviornment gang. So please, forgive me if I'm long winded. Also, there are a few questions at the end. And for those who read all this, THANK YOU because you have the patience of a saint...LOL

Vent section:
I've been diagnosed type 2 for a year and a half now. My husband has seen me dealing with diabetes and fighting the good fight this whole time. And about once every 3 months he'll have me test his sugar when I test mine. Usually he's a consistant 88, but I've never seen him go above 120 after a meal. And here's the vent. About 2 weeks ago he had me test his sugar. It was 166 after dinner and a big serving of pastery for dessert.

I got a little freaked. Reason being is that's what I did 2 years before I became diabetic. My sugar went from hypo to normal, the started creeping up there. (I also used to test a few times a year because both my partents are diabetic and my dad always made sure I had a meter to keep tabs on it because I was hypogloceimic.)

We tested him again this weekend after a breakfast of 4 slices of french toast, extra syrup and sausage. It was 163. I told him that I think MAYBE (because I'm not a doctor) he's going pre-diabetic and he needs to cut back on his carbs. He's not a happy camper with this idea. He still wants to beable to kill a whole box of mac and cheese or 2 cups of rice with sweet and sour sauce in it. This lead to a fight about how I've cut back on carbs with dinner since I've been diabetic and how he's switched to splenda in his coffee. I then told him yes, but maybe that's becoming not good enough. However, no more than 1 cup of pasta or rice per meal and no dessert after a high carb dinner is unacceptable to him. I then explained to him that if he becomes diabetic that his diet would be WAY more restricted than what I was suggesting.

Ok, suggesting isn't the right word, I was pretty much demanding. I fully admit that in this situation I played the "mommy" wife big time. Normally I'm not like that. I have no desire to change him or restrict who he is. I married him because I love who he is, not what I can change him into. But he's flat out told me before if he ever becomes diabetic he's not changing his eatting and if he dies from diabetes then oh well. So I've got this mentality that I need to save him from this situation right now. I know my attitude doesn't sound good, but I'm trying to be honest about my actions and feelings. It all boils down to the fact that I'm scared for him and I don't want to be a widow too soon.

Wow, vent over, thanks for listening. Now for a few questions. And please be honest, there are no wrong answers here. I won't get my nose all out of joint for being told I'm wrong...LOL

1. I don't speak "man talk"...lol So what is the best way to approach talking with him about this in a productive way? I understand that if I continue to speak "freaked out wife" it won't get either of us any where.

2. What are normal blood sugar lvls for someone not diabetic or pre diabetic who's eatten to many carbs?

3. How many times can he let his sugar get into the 160's before his body says "I'm diabetic or I'm pre diabetic"?

4. Is it possible that this is pre diabetes or am I wrong?