[Subby]

Hi. Apart from very basic courtesies and considerations like not stuffing your face with really high GI, fast carbs the whole time, and being patient with BG swings and issues to your best kind judgement, I think there is one basic rule of thumb you should think about.

Communicate.

You need to talk to her about it. You need her to talk to you about it. It's exactly the same as any relationship. Diabetes is no different from a myriad of what makes up our life - in fact the differences diabetes might create to common experience of living and coping, means that communication and really understanding how this person does lead and wants to lead their life, becomes doubly important. It should not be some silent, egg shell issue. You need to get to know her and their life, her issues, what she wants, how she wants to handle things, how you can help, it ALL has to come from her. anything else may well be completely wrong and completely inappropriate - even if it is generally or technically "correct".

I understand shy. I understand embarrassed. I understand hiding. But I'd say it's important for you to to get beyond that, you and her, and talk about what diabetes means to her (not us) if you want to move into the future together.