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06-10-2007, 08:30 AM
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I am a: Type 1 | | Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1,417
| | | A small goodbye
I didn’t want to just not show up anymore as there are several of you who show you caring regularly. I figured I owed you a small explanation why I will not be around in the next little while (plus, one person on this board has told me that I should leave, at least for a while).
8 months ago when I was diagnosed with diabetes I was scared for my life. I was scared for the hardships I would have to endure to keep in control and eventually lead to complications and ultimately my death. I was saddened to think I would not see my children grow up, get married, see my grandchildren, and most of all I was heartbroken that I would eventually leave my wife alone in our old age. I wasn’t going to be there for her, grow old together etc…
Finally, after 8 months of anxiety and depression, I was starting to feel some control of my anxiety, not being so scared of the future (and dare I say hopeful). I’ve been easing up on my control and frequent testing, feeling more confident.
The irony, is that after all of this, and finally feeling hopeful, I’ve now lost my wife. She can no longer take any of this. My biggest fear in life, and what concerned me the most in my diagnosis, has now come to fruition. I will now lose my wife and kids. 8 months and 1 week ago I would have NEVER expected this. This was nowhere near the table, far far far from any thoughts in my mind. I’m at a loss for words.
This site has been a “health” blessing. I’ve learned more from this site alone than from any doctor, educator, or other diabetes info source. I thank all of you who make this the most incredible diabetes source of help. Unfortunately, my needs now are far beyond the scope of this site, and I’ve achieved, at this point in time, the ultimate in control that a diabetic can (thanks again to so many of you).
Perhaps I will pop back in if I have some control issues, and maybe a note like this is a little over the top, whatever. It’s who I am and what has become of me (and if you don’t like it, just imagine how I feel). Over these many months I’ve gone through so much more than I can handle.
Thanks again.
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Type 1
Dx'd Oct 2, 2006
Medtronic pumper - NovoRapid
Drusens in both eyes.
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06-10-2007, 08:37 AM
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I am a: Type 1.5 | | Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Milton Keynes. U.K.
Posts: 666
| | | Goodness, I am so sorry you are going through all this. How awful for you and your family.
It is a shame that you have chosen now to leave us as there are some wonderful, supportive people here.
Don't be a complete stranger.
Heather. |
06-10-2007, 09:08 AM
|  | Senior Member
I am a: Type 1 | | Join Date: May 2004 Location: NC
Posts: 7,297
| | Injecto, I'm sorry that you are going through all of this. I am also sorry that you feel you must leave. Just because one person thinks it, does not mean that we all do. We will always be here to help if you need it. Please don't go but if you feel you must, I wish you all of the luck in the world. Take care and please, do come back.
__________________  Rest In Peace Jack- 5/1/08. You may be gone from us but you will never be forgotten. Our love goes with you.
Pumping ain't easy but it's well worth the effort to me.
I am a person. I WILL NOT allow myself to be defined by a number!!!!
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06-10-2007, 09:36 AM
|  | Senior Member | | Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Vermont, 50 miles from nowhere
Posts: 2,416
| | | Injecto, I'm sorry to hear you are going through bad times. I hope you reconsider leaving, as gettingby said above, not everyone thinks you should leave. We are here for you. Take care of yourself.
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Val
Take care of your body. Where else are you going to live? |
06-10-2007, 09:46 AM
|  | Senior Member | | Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Ohio
Posts: 4,682
| | | I agree with the others, we do not want you to leave. Maybe we can help you get through this, I am sure there are many who have been through this same situation who could offer you some help. If you feel you have to go, remember where we are, we will be waiting here for you.
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17 post cards from round 1
3 postcards from round 1/2
And 1 from Ed
I believe the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be
Whitney Houston Greatest Love of All
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06-10-2007, 09:51 AM
|  | Super Moderator
I am a: Type 1 | | Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Northern California
Posts: 7,412
| | | Diabetes brought us together, but friendship keeps us together. Please don't leave. Hopefully, your friends can help. |
06-10-2007, 09:53 AM
| | Member
I am a: Type 2 | | Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Connecticut
Posts: 150
| | | Perhaps whoever suggested that you leave would be happier on a different forum.
Stick around, share what you want to, and just lurk the rest of the time. |
06-10-2007, 10:05 AM
|  | Senior Member
I am a: Type 1 | | Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Southern USA
Posts: 1,500
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Originally Posted by Who?  Perhaps whoever suggested that you leave would be happier on a different forum. | That, right there. I personally have learned a great deal from all of your questions and discussions, and I'd hate to see you leave.
I am so sorry for what you are going through right now. I hope you'll reconsider not coming around too much. Though this forum is about D, it's really about the people who are dealing with it. All of us have a life aside from D, some good, some not so good. But we can all help each other with anything simply because of that one common thing that bonds us all together.
I'll be praying for you and your family.
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~Holly~
Incorrectly dx'ed type 2 7/00 
Correctly dx'ed type 1 5/01
MDI
Lantus 2x daily & Humalog
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06-10-2007, 10:44 AM
| | Senior Member
I am a: Type 1 | | Join Date: May 2004 Location: NC
Posts: 7,297
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Originally Posted by notme Diabetes brought us together, but friendship keeps us together. Please don't leave. Hopefully, your friends can help. | Word, Nancy !!!!! Quote:
Originally Posted by Who? Perhaps whoever suggested that you leave would be happier on a different forum. | Was thinking the same thing myself but didn't want to offend anyone. Quote:
Originally Posted by grace girl That, right there. I personally have learned a great deal from all of your questions and discussions, and I'd hate to see you leave.
I am so sorry for what you are going through right now. I hope you'll reconsider not coming around too much. Though this forum is about D, it's really about the people who are dealing with it. All of us have a life aside from D, some good, some not so good. But we can all help each other with anything simply because of that one common thing that bonds us all together.
I'll be praying for you and your family. | Well said grace girl!! Well said !!
__________________ Rest In Peace Jack- 5/1/08. You may be gone from us but you will never be forgotten. Our love goes with you.
Pumping ain't easy but it's well worth the effort to me.
I am a person. I WILL NOT allow myself to be defined by a number!!!!
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06-10-2007, 10:55 AM
|  | Super Moderator
I am a: Type 1 | | Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Mid-West
Posts: 7,263
| | | Injecto, I'm sorry to hear you're going through a rough time. I don't know who said you should leave, but they were totally wrong. You've contributed a great deal here & offered alot of help in your posts, and I'd personally hate to see you go, or have you feeling like you did/do not want to be here. If you could please PM me, perhaps I or one of the other mods can help? Please don't let one person's comments make you feel compelled to leave.
Though I may not always say it, there are often times I'm in full agreement with the things you say, and you've Always been very tactful about things. Please don't go, and please PM me if I can be of help. Thanks!
__________________ ALL my love, Carwy & Best wishes for a healthy new beginning! 
Saying prayers for him & all our friends, every day.
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"Someone must speak for them. I do not see a delegation for the four footed. I see no seat for eagles. We forget and we consider ourselves superior, but we are after all a mere part of the Creation."
--Oren Lyons, ONONDAGA
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Pumps & Meters Used:
MM506,7,8,11 & 12, Cozmo, Animas 1200 & 1250 Many
A1C: 6.4
Type I 26yrs, pumping 12
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06-10-2007, 11:08 AM
| | Senior Member | | Join Date: May 2007 Location: california
Posts: 642
| | | goodbye injecto
dear injecto....i am so very sorry for what you are going through....i am fairly new to this forum...but have done much "back" reading...i too have enjoyed what you have written.....my guess is just as there are many here who have helped you with you diabetes there are many here who have experienced a broken heart....princess linda always suggest a book for us newly diagnosed...i would like to suggest you read "how to survive the loss of a love" it is a long time favorite and any bookstore will know the authors....it is not a how to book it is written by three authors one of which is a poet.....it is a book you pick up and read parts and will find you can connect with.....there is also a workbook you can get if you think it would help on amazon.....i have given many of these books to friends over the years....it can help with any kind of loss...job, friendship ...i may even find it helps with this loss of the health i thought i had......good luck to you and your family....my son once told his dad "one phone call every sunday night and you would have been a hero" i am sure you can get through this difficult time and come out their hero....
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06-10-2007, 11:09 AM
|  | Senior Member
I am a: Type 1 | | Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: The mighty shire. England
Posts: 1,225
| | | No no no please don't leave.
We're all here to listen and help for diabetic and non-diabetic issues.
Don't leave you've got some good friends here who want to listen and understand.
((hug))
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---------------------------- The pages I've turned are the lessons I've learned - The rest is still unwritten.. |
06-10-2007, 11:29 AM
|  | Senior Member
I am a: Type 2 | | Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Macomb Twp, Mich
Posts: 868
| |  Im so sorry Injecto for what your going thru, but take comfort in this, God has a plan for you, and one day you will know why things come to pass. Dont EVER apologize for sharing whats on your mind, we are all only human and need each other more than some people want to admit.
I didnt know you all that well, although you and I have spoken a couple of times, but your leaving is like a missing piece of the puzzle, oh sure we can fininsh the puzzle without you, but there will always be that void that your leaving leaves behind. God Bless you..Bryan
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Diagnosed Type 2 April '07
2000mg Metformin daily,Crestor,Plavix,Atenolol,Pottasium,Diet Coke taken as needed!!
(April '07-A1C= 6.9)
(August '07 A1C= 6.4)
(March '08 A1C= 6.4)
(June '08 A1C= 6.3)
(Sept '08 A1C= 7.4)  When signmakers go on strike, is their anything written on their signs?? |
06-10-2007, 12:04 PM
| | Senior Member
I am a: Type 1.5 | | Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Victoria Canada
Posts: 833
| | | Hi Injecto
though I can appreciate you are in so much pain and might need to be alone right now, reserve the thought that you don't need to leave, just take some time off to yourself and maybe soon enough you will want to come back.. maybe you will want to talk about your family matters and maybe you would prefer not to...I am sure nobody would want to press you on that...
sounds to me like you will be very missed ( I have also always enjoyed your posts and found them very thought provoking and honest)
I hope you can have a happy ending to your problems and send my sympathies in bucketloads, we all go though these sadnesses and if we can be there for you to lean on, we will
take care
ss |
06-10-2007, 12:15 PM
| | Senior Member
I am a: Parent | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 576
| | | Hey,
I, too, am so sorry to hear about your family troubles. To say this is a tough year for you is an understatement. Don't be a stranger -- and I hope you will do everything you can to keep on seeing your kids. They need you -- and they will give you a reason to stick with things. All my best wishes...
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Holly
Mom to Aaron, 16, Type 1 Sept. 05
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