Cna someone please tell me good job?

[mindylee]

I am so darn tired of hearing the, oh you shouldn't do that, oh you can't have that, are you sure that's OK for you, blah blah blah. The list goes on. I just want someone to tell me, hey good job on that last meal when you resisted the chocolate cake, or I know you didn't feel like walking after lunch, but you did anyway, good for you. I just feel everyone is so negative all the time. I'm having a hard time doing the right things and I don't always make the best choices, but I'm trying very hard and it's not easy for me. I caught this on my own, I had GD and was told after delivering my baby that it was gone, but when he was 3 months I checked again and my fastings were high, I brought it to my dr. I just want to not feel like such a failure!

[sydneya]

Yep, Mindy, we all caught this on our own. But that isn't to say you did anything to bring it on. There is something like a 80% chance that you will eventually get diabetes after having Gestational Diabetes. That's how mine started, it left when my son was born, and then I was diagnosed with Type 2two years later.
I also have to admit it is a disease that makes family members panic when they see you sneaking a piece of candy or something. It's an adjustment period for those that are close to you too, because the "D" word is scary. They want to help and don't know how to help you. In one breath my sweetheart is offering me a big serving of mashed potatoes and yelling because I took that 1/2 tsp of ice cream. (And yes, he has taken the education with me so he knows about carbs.)
Don't feel like a failure. Some things are not in our control in this life. Think of ways to pat yourself on the back when you do good and communicate with your friends and family so they know how to help you.

AND BY THE WAY, "GOOD JOB IN JOINING THIS FORUM!! IT WILL BE ONE OF YOUR SMARTEST STEPS IN COMING TO GRIPS WITH THE BIG D!!"

[Elise]

Yes, good job on trying to get this thing under control. We need cheerleaders, not food police! I'm perfectly aware of what I put in my mouth and I really resent the looks, comments, sighs, etc when I don't do my best. Someone will raise their eyebrows and express surprise when I take a dessert, but they didn't notice that I cut back on carbs all day so I could. I think it's gotten better for me, mainly because I have the world's best husband helping me. It's the carb Nazis that get me down.

[princesslinda]

Hi Mindy...welcome. We all struggled daily to find a balance between what we know we need to do and that part of us that just wants to be "normal." From your post, it sounds as if you are taking charge and trying hard to control things, so for that....GOOD JOB!:five:

I was diagnosed in Aug of 06 at age 42. I have a lot of family support thankfully. My husband doesn't try and tell me what to eat (we have nothing at home that I CAN'T eat). If he wants sweets, he has them at work..The stinker has lost over 40 lbs since i've become a diabetic, while i'm struggling at 38 lbs.

Perhaps you should suggest that those who are giving you tons of unsolicited advice on food, diabetes etc, should try giving up bread, pasta, rice, potatoes, sweets and also be required to stick themselves 4-5 times a day for a couple of weeks....THEN let them give you advice on dealing with things.

I made my family swear to intervene if they saw me behaving irresponsibly to the detriment of my health, but they haven't had to. Most of us KNOW what to do and try hard to do it.

You sound like a women in charge...don't be stressed by others, take what they say with a grain of salt...they really don't understand. Often spouses remarks are driven by fear...so cut him some slack there...he loves you, or he wouldn't care what you eat. You hang in there! Sounds like you're going to be fine!

[fizzgig_sh]

Welcome to the club. :five:

A year or two ago I joined Weight Watchers. As you will all know from the ads that with WW we can eat anything. Yes ANYTHING. WW teaches us to choose wisely and we 'count' everything that goes into our mouths. Yes, even chocolate. I lost heaps and felt great.

My family were shocked by what I had to eat when they thought I was on a 'diet'. I had never eaten so much food in all my life and I was never hungry. But as they saw the weight coming off even with what I was eating they stopped nagging me. I told them I had it all under control as I had learned all about it from WW. They eventually got off my case.

When I got Diabetes diagnosed last October I thought I couldn't eat anything with sugar in it. I have since learned that it is not so grim as that. I thought I knew all about diabetes. What I found out was what I didn't know about diabetes. I found that it was not as bad as I first thought it was going to be.

As my family found out that I was attending meetings and studying all I could find out about diabetes they, again, got off my case. I had diabetes - I had the control in my power. They could relax.

And by the way, ditto on the "GOOD JOB IN JOINING THIS FORUM!! IT WILL BE ONE OF YOUR SMARTEST STEPS IN COMING TO GRIPS WITH THE BIG D!!"

Congratulations on taking control of your life. Taking care of your health is a good job, well worth doing, and worth doing well. They say that a diabetic is a healther person because they take care of their health. We are all ready winning.

Even though I still have heaps to learn, it is not so scary now.

Cheers

[MJM]

I am so darn tired of hearing the, oh you shouldn't do that, oh you can't have that, are you sure that's OK for you, blah blah blah. The list goes on. I just want someone to tell me, hey good job on that last meal when you resisted the chocolate cake, or I know you didn't feel like walking after lunch, but you did anyway, good for you. I just feel everyone is so negative all the time. I'm having a hard time doing the right things and I don't always make the best choices, but I'm trying very hard and it's not easy for me. I caught this on my own, I had GD and was told after delivering my baby that it was gone, but when he was 3 months I checked again and my fastings were high, I brought it to my dr. I just want to not feel like such a failure!

Mindy, I feel for you. I think we all would have experienced what you've been through. You know when you've done a good job and that should give you a lift and allow you that positive feeling. To those who keep telling you what to do, bear in mind that they are only trying to help. Perhaps you could ask them when they got their doctorate in diabetes management. You are trying very hard so you can be extremely proud of yourself for that. Keep up the good work. Mindy, you'll learn as you go. I have diabetes for over 40 years and I'm still learning. I call it the contrary disease because it is. But I also know it's managable and what we put into it is what we'll get out of it.

[panmat1]

Mindy welcome to the group. I sat my family down and had a heart to heart what my rules will be. I wanted healthy food in the house, no chips etc., no food police to tell me what to do. I would have 1 hour a day for me to do what I want....exercise,read, go to the "Y", or whatever I want to do with this time. I also joined a local diabetic support group, took diabetic classes, like I did when I started 10 years ago. I redid my meal plan to make it more "me". Coming here was an excellent first step in gaining your diabetic life back. Good luck. Nancy