hi there

[aclvcc]

My name is Anne and I'm engaged to a wonderful wonderful guy named Chancey he was diagnosed 2 1/2 years ago with type 1 diabetes (before I met him) I'm really looking for a place to help me understand more I want to be able to do anything I can to help him when he's a having a hard day. So far I've seen the highs and lows blood sugar at 78 and as high as 695 and through it all he just pushes forward and I do whatever I can to help him through I've sat by him in the hospital where their attitiude was well we try not to let anything bad happen while he was sitting or should I say slouching in a wheelchair to weak to move with his BS at 550 needless to say we left and went to the next hospital I've been there when the "doctors" he's seen just brush off the fact he's a diabetic and just want to address everything else I've been there to keep him awake when he knows if he falls alseep it could be potentially dangerous I've made sure that he has his insulin both fast acting and slow release I hold him up when he feels irresponsible because his levels are high because he ate something he shouldn't have but through all of this I just want to know more what can I do how can I help even simple things like snacks in the house we watch for carbs and sugars but what else can I do I don't want anything to happen to him I want him to stay healthy I want to help as I'm typing this I realize how needy I sound but I love him so much and just want him to be with me for the long haul...so I hoping this is a place I can learn more about this so I can do whatever I can to make him happy and healthy so if you have the patience for me I'd really appreciate it

[cheryl]

Oh my goodness what an ordeal you are going thru. Wow he has had it rough hasn't he, So, does he exactly know his carb to insulin ratio and are you guys sure his slow release insulin is at a correct dose it these all are pretty accurate he won't be suffering so bad I am not saying perfect perfect sugars but nothing too awful. Do you know what type of insulin he is on and has he ever considered the pump.....I know a lot of questions but sometimes the problems are just as minor as figuring correct dosing and he can feel much better or using different types of insulin.........

Hope to hear from you soon and he is very lucky to have such a dedicated woman as yourself

Cheryl

[aclvcc]

he's taking Lantus and Humalog I believe 12 units of the 1st and 12 of the 2nd he's pretty good about his diet and excercise something he started when he was diagnosed. My concern is he's not checking his levels regularly like I think he should and he likes to take a break from shots understandable but not in his best interest since I've been with him I'm made it my goal (probably the wrong word) to help him stay on track with what he needs to do to stay healthy I just don't know quite how to approach the suggestion of him NOT taking a break it's usually one day but still he needs to do what he needs to do he get's very possessive of this disease and really hates being told what to do so how do I get the point across that I'm only trying to help and not run his life I'm trying to work up a schedule to help BOTH of us keep on track with his meds like I said I'm not sure of how to approach it without coming off as a nag OH he has tried the pump but it didn't go well for him so he's having to do shots

[cheryl]

Oh god he sounds like I used to very stubborn about having it. Well I hated to check my bg's now I feel abadoned without testing them. I know you don't want to sound like a nag, I think what hit me about starting to care was my god awful attitude and my husband and I started to drift because of it which scared me to death and he said he couldn't deal with me for too much longer. Now scare tactics don't work on everyone and I think my husband wasn't even thinking of this dramatic change that came over me let alone that my attitudes actually 65% of them came from being off keel all the time. Big wake up call for both of us......Men are different then woman anyway, I didn't make a big deal of it he didn't i do and he does.......

Ok anyway, maybe you can get him to browse on here and read some of the stories I know when i joined the other forum knowing there were other people out there that sounded just like me helped out trememdously with my ole stubborn butt, mind you I didn't get on the ball till about October and had this since 1991 ok.......but he seems like it is affecting him alot worse than it did me.....testing helps determine if your medication is even the right doses.....point blank otherwise you are doing this blindly and always always take medication.......I know it sucks to say but we all get to this in our own time....it took me forever, i kind of wish someone would of been on my butt as no one dared to anyone...........I have that kind of nature of don't tell me what to do attitude anyway but deep down I really need the nagging, I never ever had the nagging.......he might finally get receptive to the nagging if his nature is anything like mine.....which is stubborn and I can do what I want kind of crude......

I am with you I do feel for you and let us know how he is doing........if you have any questions about determining medicine doses or anything I am willing to help I was clueless and forums helped me and books more than any dr had ever in my life.

Cheryl

[MJM]

My name is Anne and I'm engaged to a wonderful wonderful guy named Chancey he was diagnosed 2 1/2 years ago with type 1 diabetes (before I met him) I'm really looking for a place to help me understand more I want to be able to do anything I can to help him when he's a having a hard day. So far I've seen the highs and lows blood sugar at 78 and as high as 695 and through it all he just pushes forward and I do whatever I can to help him through I've sat by him in the hospital where their attitiude was well we try not to let anything bad happen while he was sitting or should I say slouching in a wheelchair to weak to move with his BS at 550 needless to say we left and went to the next hospital I've been there when the "doctors" he's seen just brush off the fact he's a diabetic and just want to address everything else I've been there to keep him awake when he knows if he falls alseep it could be potentially dangerous I've made sure that he has his insulin both fast acting and slow release I hold him up when he feels irresponsible because his levels are high because he ate something he shouldn't have but through all of this I just want to know more what can I do how can I help even simple things like snacks in the house we watch for carbs and sugars but what else can I do I don't want anything to happen to him I want him to stay healthy I want to help as I'm typing this I realize how needy I sound but I love him so much and just want him to be with me for the long haul...so I hoping this is a place I can learn more about this so I can do whatever I can to make him happy and healthy so if you have the patience for me I'd really appreciate it

Anne welcome to the forums. Isn't he the lucky guy to have found someone as good as you. Your love for him is very obvious. Something is really amiss when you've gone through so much. Is he getting much support from any diabetes team? Is he getting support from his doctor? Has he been taught the fundamentals of carb counting and does he do it? He's not very long a diabetic and should be a little careful about what he eats until such time as he familiarises himself with enough info to actually know what he's doing. Is there a good doctor specialising in diabetes in your area? If so perhaps a visit there wouldn't go astray. Is he looking after himself properly? Does he understand Carbohydrate Ratio etc? Perhaps if you both buy books on diabetes and carb counting and all the related matters and go through them together you will both be familiar with what can happen and how to deal with it. He is not diabetic very long so he still wouldn't know everything about the illness. I applaud you for your efforts so far. Anne, keep fighting and demanding answers until you find the solution. I wish you well in your quest.

[xMenace]

Welcome Anne.

Lots to learn and apparently lots to change. GO SLOW!