Does the pump make you feel Un-Sexy? [Archive]

Injecto

03-19-2007, 01:57 PM

Just wondering how you fellow pumpers now perceive yourselves wearing the pump/infusion site. For guys it may be a bit less of an issue, but even still Iike to take the shirt off while doing yard work and let the ladies take a gander at my lovely curves (mostly round ones, particularly in the mid section). For women I can see this being a bit more of an issue (to them, not me, a little infusion site does NOT take away from your "look"). But I'm curious what you all think. Summers around the corner, tank tops, halter tops, NO tops (for guys.....), bathing suites, therefore it must be an issue to some extent, I would think.

I myself don't feel that the pump/infusion site takes away anything that I didn't have before, or not THAT much more.

Eyessack

03-19-2007, 02:02 PM

i feel much sexier now that i have the pump. i let all the ladies that please take a gander. i even let them touch the pump.

xMenace

03-19-2007, 02:10 PM

"Let me PUMP you UP!" is my new favorite line ;)

ladytaz

03-19-2007, 02:14 PM

In my best Right Said Fred voice:
"I'm too sexy for my pump, too sexy for my pump, what'cha think about that?"

Sorry, couldn't resist! LOL

trailrunner

03-19-2007, 02:55 PM

I put my infusion site, way down by my hip bone, or right above my butt. I am a 30 year old mom of 2 who is in amazing shape, but I don't wear clothes that are too revealing. I still get hit on every day, so I guess i am still pretty cute !;)

BriOnH

03-19-2007, 02:59 PM

Call me vein, but this is one of the many reasons I won't pump. It's not sexy, but I sometimes walk around naked. Also sex. Granted, in most cases, a girl will know I have diabetes before I sleep with her, but none-the-less I wouldn't want to expose her to that. Every single person I have talked to about this in the real world says that the pump has never interfered with their sex life at all. I find that ultra hard to believe.

Tony

03-19-2007, 03:08 PM

Granted, in most cases, a girl will know I have diabetes before I sleep with her, but none-the-less I wouldn't want to expose her to that.

Shouldn't you get to know her first, before sleeping with her? You wouldn't want to share with her that you have diabetes first or no?

BriOnH

03-19-2007, 03:21 PM

Shouldn't you get to know her first, before sleeping with her? You wouldn't want to share with her that you have diabetes first or no?

Absolutely, and I was trying to convey that I most likely wouldn't be in bed with a girl that didn't know I was diabetic (the last time a girl didn't know was Vegas mohahaha). I just don't want my site rubbing up (irritating) against her. I have other things that do that :) .

KritterMom

03-19-2007, 03:22 PM

You are all CRACKING ME UP!:T

ladytaz

03-19-2007, 03:30 PM

I just don't want my site rubbing up (irritating) against her. I have other things that do that :) .

OMG!!!!!! *FAINTS*
LOLOLOL

camjen1

03-19-2007, 03:45 PM

Yowzers!! Anyone else feel how hot it is in here?

*cracks a window*

HollyB

03-19-2007, 03:50 PM

I don't know about the set and pump itself, but if Aaron was a girl, I'm pretty sure he would have stopped using angled sets completely by now. They leave a pretty obvious mark, and they take a really long time to go away. That would be an issue in summer with belly tops and bikinis for sure!

And --I know a young woman who has no problems at all with the infusion set, but decided against the CGMs when she saw how big it was. Now THAT is not sexy, under or without clothes (her comment: sticks out like a third boob). Good thing they've brought out something flatter.

(PS I can't see that his pump has detracted from his girl appeal at all... at least not from the way they were yelling out his name at his last gig.)

grace girl

03-19-2007, 04:12 PM

I'm not a pumper, but I personally would think that anyone who found someone unatractive, or even less sexy, because of a pump needs some serious help!
Are people really that shallow???

Injecto

03-19-2007, 04:34 PM

Every single person I have talked to about this in the real world says that the pump has never interfered with their sex life at all. I find that ultra hard to believe.

Oh..trust me. It's not only NOT a problem, it has enhanced the experience.....

BriOnH

03-19-2007, 04:38 PM

Oh..trust me. It's not only NOT a problem, it has enhanced the experience.....

So it's a problem and it enhances sex? :T

Injecto

03-19-2007, 05:07 PM

.... and it enhances sex? :T

Only if you add the "performance enhancing drugs" into the rervoir rather than insulin....I keep a reservoir filled with both next to the bed;)

:D

ToddyC

03-19-2007, 05:20 PM

It doesn't make me feel less sexy. And my wife doesn't seem to mind, as she still tells me it's the best 2 minutes of her life :)

BriOnH

03-19-2007, 05:38 PM

Only if you add the "performance enhancing drugs" into the rervoir rather than insulin....I keep a reservoir filled with both next to the bed;)

:D

touche lol :)

Emm

03-19-2007, 06:31 PM

Oh..trust me. It's not only NOT a problem, it has enhanced the experience.....

Really? HOW??

jen_slc

03-19-2007, 06:36 PM

As an ex-pumper, I voted yes, absolutely. For most of my pumping experience, it really didn't bother me, but when I started having problems, I hated it - I hated it being on me, I hated the way I couldn't hide it, I hated the way the sites looked on me, I hated the way they scarred me, I hated it all. So yes, it made me feel terribly un-sexy for the last year or two.

And yes, I've had the unfortunate experience of people being .... hmm... how best to put it.... disgusted? nah too harsh, maybe weirded out? by it. And no, I wasn't with shallow partners at the time, sometimes these things just weird out normal, caring human beings. For me, sex with the pump was annoying and if it didn't turn the partner off, it definitely turned me off!

I know, I know, I have a very negative view on it! :D

jenet

03-19-2007, 06:50 PM

My hubby still chases me up the stairs, so no problem here! ;)

jeggeman31

03-19-2007, 07:25 PM

It doesn't make me feel less sexy. And my wife doesn't seem to mind, as she still tells me it's the best 2 minutes of her life :)

Wow I have only hit 90 seconds. Thats my record:D

tanyatype1

03-19-2007, 09:08 PM

I feel exactly the same! I just take the pump off during sex. As for summer clothes, there's always a spot to hide the site. (even in a bikini) On the beach, I check my bg, then take off my pump and put it in my beachbag. No one sees the site under my bikini bottoms. I just check my blood every so often and if I need insulin then I just hook-up, blast, and take it off again. No worries here!

June91

03-20-2007, 01:20 AM

I'm not a pumper, but I personally would think that anyone who found someone unatractive, or even less sexy, because of a pump needs some serious help!
Are people really that shallow???

Not that I'm shallow :D but I have to admit, esthetically speaking, if I wasn't on the pump myself, I'd find the infusion site unappealing. I had no problems while I was married, but have definitely had confidence issues since I've been single.

To me, my diabetes shouldn't be a distraction during such pleasant activities. I find that diabetes sometimes (treating lows) takes away some spontaneity, but forgetting about the pump and infusion site would require a mild case of Alzheimer's.

Shouldn't you get to know her first, before sleeping with her? You wouldn't want to share with her that you have diabetes first or no?

I'd rather be honest than politically correct, so I have to ask: are we on the hallmark channel - am I the only one to have had sex with people because they were too gorgeous and the circumstances just right?

It's obvious I feel strongly and have lots of issues with this topic, but keeping this a family site, I'll refrain from going into further detail. I'm taking a short break from the pump and will hopefully have some data for comparison in the near future. ;)

2high

03-20-2007, 01:41 AM

Cyborg

03-20-2007, 04:33 AM

I sometimes walk around naked.

Not an image I needed at 7:30 am...

Injecto

03-20-2007, 04:45 AM

but I sometimes walk around naked. Also sex.
Not an image I needed at 7:30 am...

:puke:

:D

Dewey

03-20-2007, 07:46 AM

It has never bothered me in the slightest. I've been wearing the pump on my shirt (as seen in pictures) for the past 11 years.

It could be that I just don't give a rat's a** what other people think, and would rather lead & educate (ok, well, attempt to educate) people when they ask. Lately however, I've noticed several folks knew what it was without asking (could be 'cause I've been wearing the ADA luggage tag I got at the expo around my neck! LMAO) - Yeah, I know, I'm nuts...but I really don't care. ;)

As for fun activities.....it hasn't bothered there, either. Just lay it beside ya (or there are other methods to keep the tubing from tickling your partner) & you're good to go! :D

Doug

03-20-2007, 07:57 AM

Like most things
If you want it and like it and use it then no it doesnt get in the way or effect your self image

If you hate it, resist it and despise it, then yes it sucks the life out of you.

Its all what you make of it - In the 2 years I have been pumping I have had less than 10 people even notice and most of them were just commenting on it since they just saw me test my BG or what ever...

One of the things I like about the new Cozmo software is it will remind you to reconnect. Lets say you engage in an activity that you would prefer to not wear the pump for ( I have done it both ways ), and that activity has a trendency to make you sleepy right after.. :T The disconnect reminder and basal compensator would come in handy...

Injecto

03-20-2007, 08:42 AM

Really? HOW??

In ways you couldn't imagine.....:)

Tony

03-20-2007, 09:55 AM

Absolutely, and I was trying to convey that I most likely wouldn't be in bed with a girl that didn't know I was diabetic (the last time a girl didn't know was Vegas mohahaha). I just don't want my site rubbing up (irritating) against her. I have other things that do that :) .This brings up a new topic for a new thread. How soon in a relationship do you tell your date you have diabetes? First date, second... When... And how do you go about telling your date? Hi my name is Tony and I have Diabetes...

Beth, watch out. I have a funny feeling Brian is going to leave some vital information In Vegas!

Ok back topic.

cheryl

03-20-2007, 11:06 AM

To me personally, I don't have the pump, I was just always wondering if it got in the way, I figured i'd disconnect when it is one of those steamy roll around on the you know what kind of love makin, but the I am in the mood a 15 minutes not even takin all the clothes off I wouldn't even bother with it.

As for self image, look I have had four kids, and umm well I wasn't one of the lucky ones that dont' have the marks to prove, I don't skimp along in a bikini anyway, cause I got my baby marks on the belly........oh and that is yucky enough in itself, and since I already have a hubby that get's turned on seeing me in the buff and doesn't pay no mind to my marks on the tummy then the stuff from the pump should make me be no different in my opinion, I think the only thing he is most concerned with is hurting my site or smashing the pump, but like I said, I will disconnect for wild love:T

plus most normal men are for boobs and butts anyway, if they worry about all the other things I'd run the other way........lol

Cheryl

trailrunner

03-20-2007, 11:12 AM

So it's a problem and it enhances sex? :T It's all about being creative...... I really don't think that my infusion site would stop anyone . Y'all don't do it with the lights off?

mcneely

03-20-2007, 11:37 AM

So many people here are talking about disconnecting beforehand. I use the "quick set" and I rarely keep the little cap that goes on top to shower.

When you disconnect, are you using that cap (for quick set users)? I don't and I know it has caused problems while having sex. Many times my site has scratched my wife or the site just comes off. This has happened mostly when I wear my site on the front side of my thigh though.

Injecto

03-20-2007, 12:10 PM

Many times my site has scratched my wife or the site just comes off. This has happened mostly when I wear my site on the front side of my thigh though.

Yup, but the great thing is that it's not a problem to the pumper, just the pumpee....LOL...

No cap. Plue, the scratching can easily twisted as a "playing rough" kind of play....

plus most normal men are for boobs and butts anyway

I suppose I'm not normal then...

Y'all don't do it with the lights off?

Then how do you know where you are going? LOL

cheryl

03-20-2007, 12:18 PM

I suppose I'm not normal then...

I thought about my comment after I wrote that:o I meant that if someone is so defined in worrying about a mark on the body then I'd run the other way cause some men just are concerned about the package not the marks, lol.......and some don't care period it is just the personality........didn't mean to offend....;)

I was honestly thinking about my husband, he always tells me u got boobs and a butt, why do i care about the marks lol I think he says that to make me feel better cause his ex had none of that either so I think it boils down to well, if your a good person it shines thru any fault period......I had to learn that the hard way cause my strectch marks freaked me out and I was like one of those who did rub the lotion and gained 40 pounds tops with the third one, and then seeing other woman gain 100 with a tiny slim of a nothing grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr................lol, scratch my booty and butt comment, we should all focus on our character,
cheryl

KritterMom

03-20-2007, 12:40 PM

I think the cap is a good idea. I didn't last time, and should have. Ya know?:)

dgrilli

03-20-2007, 07:52 PM

My Answer is no. It's so hard to humble when I'm perfect in every way.

I'm an extremely sexy man. So wearing a pump doesn't effect my sexiness.

I kinda feel like I'm to dependent on gadgets though.

I thinks it's a frame of mind. Is the water glass half till empty or half full.

Hay I'm doing the best that I can.

I think your all sexy

gettingby

03-20-2007, 08:02 PM

You guys are killing me!!!!!! LOL
Brian, I'm gonna make you proud of me. I'm staying out of this one. hehe

duck

03-20-2007, 08:33 PM

You Can Have Sex If You Are A Pumper??? Why Didn't Any Of You Tell Me This??? I've Been Going Nuts Here!!!!!!!

valc3

03-21-2007, 02:08 AM

You Can Have Sex If You Are A Pumper??? Why Didn't Any Of You Tell Me This??? I've Been Going Nuts Here!!!!!!!

Hmmmm. Want to explain your children?

Injecto

03-21-2007, 06:11 AM

You Can Have Sex If You Are A Pumper??? Why Didn't Any Of You Tell Me This??? I've Been Going Nuts Here!!!!!!!

Well, that depends on "where" you last put your infusion set...:whistling

OUCH!!!!

greengirl

03-21-2007, 07:17 AM

my girlfriend thinks my new pink insets are HOT...

It Ain't Over

03-21-2007, 10:42 AM

I figure it is a lot less distracting than going into an unexpected low at the wrong time. The pump has really done me well, have only a couple of late night lows a month anymore.
As if there was ever an expected low, or a right time....

duck

03-21-2007, 06:43 PM

Hmmmm. Want to explain your children?

Good point. I'll have to wait until my wife gets home from her emergency shopping spree with "her friends" to talk to her about this...

gettingby

03-21-2007, 06:52 PM

You Can Have Sex If You Are A Pumper??? Why Didn't Any Of You Tell Me This??? I've Been Going Nuts Here!!!!!!!

Hmmmm. Want to explain your children?

Hmmmm.............. Immaculate conception, perhaps????

trailrunner

03-21-2007, 08:40 PM

Hmmmm.............. Immaculate conception, perhaps????
My parents think my kids were concieved the same way. what a coincidence!

lilituc

03-21-2007, 11:25 PM

Well, that depends on "where" you last put your infusion set...:whistling

Speaking of, I read an article about a Type 1 bodybuilder. It seems he just disconnects right before going out on stage (and doesn't remove his set). Then there was a picture of him out there wearing these teeny tiny little Speedos with no visible set...yeah.

duck

03-22-2007, 07:54 PM

Speaking of, I read an article about a Type 1 bodybuilder. It seems he just disconnects right before going out on stage (and doesn't remove his set). Then there was a picture of him out there wearing these teeny tiny little Speedos with no visible set...yeah.

How hard were you looking?

:D

:whistling