Anxiously trying for a baby and nothing yet.. :(

[Cinnabon]

Hello fam...

Im here and doing good. Eyes are real good. I hope everyone had a great holiday and behaved!!! LOL

fam,
I am getting anxious and feeling a bit down. I have been trying for 2 months to get pregnant and nada. I hope my Diabetes has not dented these plans of mine. Any ond all advise from all of you is more than welcome.

[Keezheekoni]

I used to post regularly on obgyn.net. The number 1 piece of advice all of the docs gave was to have sex every other day for a month. If you aren't pg by the end of that month, then they'll start looking at other things to jump start you. Two months of trying isn't a lot. Most people have to go at least six months before docs will do anything to intervene. Have patience. :)

My parents tried Clomid for five years. Gave up, decided to adopt, then got pregnant with me. :D It sometimes helps to not "try".

[Cinnabon]

LOL...
Wowzers. Im just anxious after all I have been through. I just wish my Diabetes has affeced me. I have had all the hormones tested, but I need to relax. Thinking about it too much is bad.

[Jan B]

I learned, way too late, the reason I couldn't get pregnant once, was because my thyroid was so low functioning . . .

[Cinnabon]

I learned, way too late, the reason I couldn't get pregnant once, was because my thyroid was so low functioning . . .

Had that checked out too.... Thank god, It looks good.

[Scratch]

There's always the possibility that the father's sperm doesn't have enough or the best of swimmers.

[Cinnabon]

LOL....
They r deFintely Olympic swimmers, but maybe not tough enuF.
I deF. want him to get a check out. He is 31 and never had kids, but you never know.
I am the one that has the D, but I hope it has not aFFected me and my Repo. system.:eek:

[Gary_W]

I have no scientific proof to back this up, but I really think that elevated stress levels are really not helpful to conception. My theory is that if your body senses that you are anxious, you must have a reason to be frightened and that carrying a baby in a fight or flight situation is not good. So you don't fall pregnant.

My wife used to have a stressful job. We wanted children. It wasn't happening. She gave up work and pregnancy happened. It was financially very difficult at the time (despite the fact she'd paid into the system for 14 years and never had a day off sick, we got no maternity benefit because she left work prior to being pregnant), but we wanted children and made a life choice. Fortunately it paid off. Our eldest daughter was 6 today :)

Hardly scientific advice I know, but believing there are problems after a month is not going to help you IMO. You are both very young so no need to panic if a few months go by... Enjoy yourselves, relax and nature may well give you what you want.

Good luck

Gary

[Cinnabon]

Gary, that sounds amazing. Everyone has told us to stop thinking about it, but its just soooo hard to not think about it. I am just fearing my Diabetes will get in the way.

[Mick]

My late wife and I attempted to conceive for over a year before we started with fertility evaluations and treatments, back in 1981. There was the morning temperature charts to determine the most fertile days, and the sex on demand at those times. There was the "stop trying" altogether. There were several years of resentment and depression as one by one, all of our friends and family were having kids with no problems. Finally, we decided that time was a-wasting, and the doctors were getting absolutely nowhere with us. Nine months after we ditched the entire pregnancy game, we brought home a bright, beautiful infant daughter--from Korea. She turns 25 in a couple of months, and is a PhD fellow in Music at the U. of Chicago. I also have a 17 year old son, from Vietnam. Wherever your children come from, however they arrive, once you hold them in your arms, you will love them forever. Good luck, and keep an open mind...

Michael

[RobiJo]

Cin I am hoping the best for you! Hubby and I hope to start this summer after my sister's wedding... being T1 for 24 years and eye stuff I am wondering the same things.... what is going to happen....

[Cinnabon]

Dont worry too much. My 14 yr old daughter was born healthy. Have yourself checked out thoroughly. I ahve checked out just about every inch in my body, Im just paranoid thst way. lol

[xMenace]

Having kids should be an enjoyable, fullfilling experience, not hard work. Relax and enjoy!

Nice to see you back Mick.

[kgm0612]

Hey Cin........although I had no problems conceiving, I have many friends that did. It's always easy for others to say "relax, stop trying so hard". My friends heard that saying over and over again............yet..........once they stopped trying and relaxed, everyone of them got pregnant! I pray the same happens for you!

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Karen

[Cinnabon]

I know, I just have to learn to Stop worrying and thinking about it.

[Jan B]

Nine months after we ditched the entire pregnancy game, we brought home a bright, beautiful infant daughter--from Korea. She turns 25 in a couple of months, and is a PhD fellow in Music at the U. of Chicago. I also have a 17 year old son, from Vietnam. Wherever your children come from, however they arrive, once you hold them in your arms, you will love them forever. Good luck, and keep an open mind...

Michael

Michael,
Your comments warmed my heart. My little brother is adopted, and I wanted to adopt also. Way back then (over 20 years ago) I was told it was much harder for a diabetic mom to adopt a child, than to have a healthy child of her own. I don't know if it's still true or not. My dad died when I was a child, and my only child died. The most special people in my life are not genetically related to me.

I understand the desire to have a child of your own, really. It's a horrible shame that adoption is so difficult, when so many children need good homes.

RELAX Cinnabon!!! I wish you the absolute best.

[HollyB]

Hi there,

Having been there, I know that "not trying" and "not thinking about it" is pretty much impossible. But you should definitely not be worrying yet -- 2 months is hardly any time at all. It's surprisingly easy to miss the little window of opportunity your egg gives you.

Can you tell when you ovulate? I do think that good timing is more effective than quantity (so to speak) when it comes to getting pregnant. If you have long or short cycles, think 2 weeks BEFORE your period is expected, not 2 weeks AFTER your last one.

Anyhow, if it's any consolation, our first baby took nearly 2 years (yes, looked and even started fertility treatment but then stopped, got pregnant soon after), 2nd baby took 3 months and the 3rd baby was, well... I'm still not sure how that happened!

Good luck. Have fun!