What do I do now..

[nicole]

lately I just can't seem to get motivated to anything..

I'm letting my blood sugars run high again, and it's putting a strain on my relationship with my boyfriend. And honestly I don't want to lose him because I can't take care of myself.

We kind of got into an argument today about how I don't do what I'm supposed to, and it really hurt me. I care about him so much and I do really care about myself too, but I'm so stressed out lately and just can't seem to keep my head on straight.. ughh ..

What helps some of you get motivated when your feeling down and think theres nothing that can help?

Honestly I'm so stressed right now that I really like don't want to be here and have to deal with it all. I guess its just a part of growing up.

[mell1682]

I think what works best for me when I feel like that is telling myself that it could be worse and thinking about all the other hard times I've been through and I remind myself that I'm stronger than I know. We live with diabetes, that alone is a mark of our strength. I tend to lose control of my D when I'm depressed too and that's when I remind myself that I'd rather die from getting hit by a bus than from diabetes lol. I hope that helps?

[sweetlife]

Nicole
Sorry to know this,btw your b.f is T1 or a normal one?

[Caravaggio]

My husband kicks me in the butt to get me on the right track again! ;)

Seriously, though, I go through the same thing every now and then. It's probably one way of dealing with having a chronic condition. Ask yourself why you're feeling and acting the way you're feeling and acting now. Maybe it's the recent developments in your life. Or maybe, you just need a break. We need breaks, too - although not too long to our own detriment. :)

In my case, I recognize the funk I'm in, accept it and then try to get out of it one at a time. A trick I've learned to deal with being lazy to go for my runs is to jog for 10 minutes and to go home if I really don't feel like it. After 10 minutes, I say another 10 minutes, and then another 10, until I've completed my scheduled run. Sometimes (1 out of 10), I really don't feel like running in which case I stop. I do the same for getting out of a funk.


I hope you can snap out of it real soon.

[SuzySushi]

Hey, Nicole,

Hang in there!

1) You've been dealing with diabetes for a long time now -- almost 10 years. You're entitled to feel tired of it every now and again.

2) You CAN take care of yourself. Think positive!

3) Do you have a RL support group besides your boyfriend? Friends you can complain to or who will give you a pep talk?

4) The holidays are a stressful time for everybody!!!

5) If life stresses are getting you down (you don't say what they are besides diabetes), perhaps it's time to take a break. Watch a funny movie, play with a puppy, take a yoga class, go away to your favorite spot for the weekend.

6) If those or similar ideas don't work, maybe it's time to simplify your life. Determine what's stressing you out and change that situation so you're not as stressed (or change your attitude toward the situation if you can't remedy the situation).

7) Need more help? See a counselor or therapist.

8) Read your own sig quote! Read it again!

{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}
Suzy

[SuzySushi]

Oooops..., just read your other thread in Diabetes & Pregnancy. No wonder you're stressed out. That's a hard decision to make, and your hormones are probably running rampant right now! My advice still holds. Get away for the weekend, or even just sit for a while at your most peaceful place. Don't try so hard to think things through. FEEL them. Then gather your support group and make your decision.

{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}
Suzy

[lorilei]

perhaps you will feel better once your other decision is made...and remember you not only have stress, but you have pregnancy hormones to deal with right now...so you're bound to be all over the board emotionally! good luck and hang in there!

[lugnut48]

I guess its just a part of growing up.New concept lately, isn't it?

[Psycho Penguin]

Well, not taking control of your blood sugars will make you feel worse and even more incapable of making stupid decisions, so the first step should be to definitely take control no matter what. It's not a matter of being motivated, but honestly, you're just going to be worse off in the long run if you don't find some "motivation" just to take care of the sugar problem.

[Subby]

lately I just can't seem to get motivated to anything..

I'm letting my blood sugars run high again, and it's putting a strain on my relationship with my boyfriend. And honestly I don't want to lose him because I can't take care of myself.

We kind of got into an argument today about how I don't do what I'm supposed to, and it really hurt me. I care about him so much and I do really care about myself too, but I'm so stressed out lately and just can't seem to keep my head on straight.. ughh ..

What helps some of you get motivated when your feeling down and think theres nothing that can help?

Honestly I'm so stressed right now that I really like don't want to be here and have to deal with it all. I guess its just a part of growing up.

Hi Nicole, I see this as the biggest flaming comment coming out of your post:

"I'm letting my blood sugars run high again"

Not because it's a judgment on you at all, just that everything else may well be flowing from this one point! (I know you know this, hence you said it!)

SO

What I do when it's all out of control is concentrate on the source. Everything else will hopefully get by (the stress, the BF, everything else) for a little bit while you reign in you BG.

So, come talk. Why are your levels going high? Be brutally honest (although you always seem really honest so I hadly need say it!) We might be able to whittle away at the problem, get them further under control and it will flow on to everything else...

We're not looking to get them perfect because we all know that stress and other factors affect them, but it really is a case of "whittling away" at it and gaining some progress step by step... and lower BG will lead to better mental state/motivation, too!

[hodgsonsurvivor]

I think of all the reasons I want to live and focus on that. And, then, I try to only focus on right now. If right now, I don't feel good and it's because I'm upset about something I can't do anything about I focus on something I like (music and movies do it for me). If I'm upset about something I can do something about, then I do what needs to be done, learn what needs to be learned, handle my business so to speak and then move on to the music/movie. If it's because my sugars are all over the place and I'm physically ill, I make a plan for how I'm going to get it back to where it should be and set off to feel better. I don't know about your religious beliefs, but I have found that playing some gospel music in your home and car will combat the spirit of depression. Trying to take on everything at once will only stress you more and make everything seem worse. I know you're an adult now, but I so want to sit you on my lap and rock you and sing you a lullabye. :knuddel: I guess you remind me a lot of myself. :)

[KCP]

Also, and im not saying this to stress you furthur at all, just giving you food for thought: Pregnancy can cause major irregularities and make your body harder to control. Dont beat yourself up, as it will make it worse. Tell you boy that you are dealing with it as best you can and leave you alone about the diabetes, cos the more stress he puts on you the worse the control will be.

Your body is creating life right now honey and you will be finding it harder thant normal to keep the blood sugars under control, beleive me. Just do the best you can and talk to your endo.

[KCP]

Other than that? To be honest when it comes to stress I try to dealwitht he stress first, before anything else.

As long as your not running so high that you will end up in hospital and are doing teh minimum to keep under that radar you'll be ok for a few days.
And when you've dealt with the stressor you can breathe again well enough to look at your health.

[lorilei]

I hesitate to say this Nicole, but any chance you are "letting" your BG "get out of control" to see if your body makes it's own decision with the fate of the baby?