Hello everyone!

[Linda1]

I am looking for some emotional support! My husband has been a diabetic for about 9 years now. He has had a mild heart attack a couple of years ago at the age of 40 years old. He has problems regulating his blood sugars. The stress of this is hard on me. I want him to overcome his problem, but I feel that he is close-minded on certain issues. I know that living with diabetes is very hard. I am open to any suggestions, and would like to chat with people in my same situation.

[archimeech]

Linda, I didn't take ownership of my Diabetes for almost 14 years. It's very hard for some of us to come to terms with something that changes your life so drasticly. He's got to decide what is important to him, no one can do that for him. While your support is very helpful, don't fall into a trap of him relying on your sympathy and encouragement, he needs to do it for and BY himself. Some counciling might be in order. Guys are a little hard-headed (myself included). There's nothing macho about killing yourself because you won't take care of a situation. I wish you luck, honey. It's very hard to change a person's mind set so late in life.

[HeatherP]

Welcome Linda. I'm sorry about your husband's heart attack. Does he go to the doctor regularly? Perhaps some counseling might help him to open up. Has he worked with a CDE in recent years? You can't make somebody do something they don't want to do. I think Meech is right about the macho thing - my husband was very much like that about his own health conditions for years. I used to keep most of the diabetes "stuff" to myself for many years. I didn't want to burden my husband with all the junk that goes along with this disease. Then one day I had a very nasty hypo - needed an ambulance. That scared the living **** out of my husband, and since then he's become much more involved and interested in my #'s and all the day to day stuff. You could encourage him to visit with us here. I don't know anybody else who has Diabetes except here. This place is great for venting and asking for help. Either way, regardless if your husband is or isn't interested in reaching out, you are certainly welcome to visit and find some support here from others who have experience with both sides of Diabetes.

Nice to meet you,
HeatherP
(T1 for 13 years)

[Linda1]

Thank you Heather for the advice. I see that you like cats. I have two cats myself and have assisted this past year in rescuing a number of them. Talk to you again soon. Linda

[koblenz]

Hi Linda, and welcome.

I think the comments of Meech and Heather are spot on. Being a guy, I know what you are talking about. Fortunately, I came to terms with it pretty quickly (... or at least I think I have???). OK, that and my wife threatens me that I have to live as long as she does! :D

I like Heather's idea of getting him to browse around here. Maybe you can do it together. Perhaps if he sees that he is not the only one dealing with this and that there are others that truely understand, it may make a difference.

Either way, good luck and you are always welcome to visit.

[HeatherP]

Thank you Heather for the advice. I see that you like cats. I have two cats myself and have assisted this past year in rescuing a number of them. Talk to you again soon. Linda


http://pages.prodigy.net/rogerlori1/emoticons/catgeek.gif Looking forward to it! http://pages.prodigy.net/rogerlori1/emoticons/catenthralled.gif

[am1977]

Hey Linda! ;)

Welcome! :) This is a great board full of wonderful, caring people. Hope you will stick around and see that for yourself!

All the best ;)

[gettingby]

Linda,
First of all Welcome !!!!!! This is a wonderful site. Not only are we here to offer support to diabetics but we are here also for the people who love them. Remember that we are always here for you. :D

[nantomsuethom]

Hi Linda. :)

Welcome, as you can tell this is a great group. :thumbsup:

It would be great if your hubby read the threads here also. Maybe it would help him some.

[Dewey]

Hi Linda, and welcome. It's scary that your hubby had a heart attack, and I'm sorry to hear that. :( Although that has happened, gaining better control will definitely aid his health and his future. In many circumstances, damage can be reversed if things such as eating habits, control and other factors are improved upon. I think the others made good suggestions in that your hubby should read these posts as well. Once again, welcome to the group and hope things start looking up for you and your husband. :)