[genie86333]

Like the others said, the home tests these days are really accurate - and those few that are wrong are usually false negatives (they say you're NOT pregnant when you really are.)

So, congrats, mommy (and daddy too!)

Make an appointment so that little one has all the best care right from the start.

[nicole]

Well I have taken a total of four tests, and each and every one of them say yes, so today I went and got a different brand and took it and what do you know it said "pregnant".

I'm really scared now about what my mom and dad are going to say and think. My boyfriend said he's going to be there for me no matter what.

My concern is bringing a baby into this world when neither my boyfriend nor I have a job right now.

I don't know wether to go ahead with it or just end it now. I hate to keep that as an option because it was our fault and we knew what could happen. But then again I don't want to bring an innocent baby into the world knowing good and well I can't care for it right now.

I think I'm at the most 1 1/2 months along now.
Not to mention i'm still really young..only 19, I'll be 20 in february and I don't know if thats too early or not.

Oh help me please. I want to make the right decision.

[alicat61]

Hi Nicole,
I'm sure your Mum and Dad will be supportive, They may be a little shocked at first and worried .Thats natural.
You are lucky your boyfriend is supportive also.
The decision to keep the baby or not is you and your boyfriends. Nobody can make it for you.
Things have a way of working out .
Just remember you are in shock at the moment you need time to think and talk to both your families.
My thoughts and prayers are with you

[lorilei]

nicole, i really feel for you. there may not seem to be a "right" answer that will please everyone. please make the "right answer" for you..we'll keep you in our thoughts.

[Keezheekoni]

I guess I can't really (or any of us really) can make this decision for you. I know that you're young and you're scared. Things like this happen everyday (several times a day...).

You have options. You can get jobs now, get healthcare, and get ready to be parents. You can terminate the pregnancy and be much more careful in the future. You could also continue the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption.

I don't know your living situation, other than I think you've stated that you live with your parents still... My parents were not supportive of me when I was pregnant with my son (but I was 16). Eventually they "came around", but I did get married and had a job and health insurance.

Good luck in your decision. Hugs to you.

[Scrabblechick]

Thoughts and prayers as you make this decision.

[KCP]

Aww honey.. Hugs for you in this time.
Its not an easy place to be in im sure..

Like others, only you and your boyfriend can make a desicion that is right for you. ANd whatever you decide? Will be the right one..

[mell1682]

I'm so sorry your situation is so hard...I hope that whatever you choose, it's what your heart wants, no matter what. Sending many many hugs your way.

[nicole]

Thanks for all your advice.

I thought that I was 100% sure I wanted to end it. But then I asked my boyfriend if he was happy that I made that decision and he said well no I'm not happy, but its up to you and its for the best.

We both agreed that it would be a different story if We lived on our own or we both had jobs. He said it will be difficult to take on the responsibility right now with the way things are.

I agree. He said the final decision is mine.

I guess were going to have to talk more and see what decision we come to. I have to decide soon though, I'll keep you all posted on it though.

[nicole]

Okay everyone.. I watched a video on abortion and I have to say it made me tear up.

Someone posted a bulletin on myspace and that was the first bulletin to catch my eye, hmm.. maybe meant for me to read ??

But I watched it and yes I teared up.. I'm really really confused now

[mell1682]

I cannot imagine how many thoughts and fears you have right now...and I'm sorry you're facing some pretty tough stuff. I have so been there when I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant the 3rd time...I was in the same boat (we can barely afford the 2 we have now and I was terrified about another pregnancy after 21 years of diabetes), and thinking a lot about what I was going to do, and abortion was even mentioned and I'd be lying if I said I didn't think about it cuz I did, and now I think there was a higher power involved cuz I decided not to abort and ended up miscarrying. The decision to have a baby is a BIG life changing event, no matter how you slice it. Don't let anyone choose for you...it's all up to you and it's your body and I hope that whatever you choose, that you're okay with it. I wish I could say more and I wish I could hug you cuz it's so scary and confusing to be in the boat you're in.

[nicole]

I'm really scared right now.

I'm more scared to tell my parents and his parents.
I know his mom and sisters would be excited and all for it, but the question is how are my parents going to feel about it.

Especially because my boyfriend and I live with my parents. I can only imagine how hard it would be to care for a baby in my parents house. Awkward.. I think so.

Not to mention I have two younger sisters who i need to set a good example for and letting this happen isn't doing a very good job. Well we'll see where life takes me and what it has planned.

[mell1682]

If it helps any: My sister was 18 when she got pregnant and 19 when she had my first niece...and my parents were ANGRY from the moment they found out. It was quite funny to see my mom and dad, who swore they'd never have anything to do with this baby, in the hospital cheering my sister on. My dad was especially against it and he was the proudest most beaming person there, stopping perfect strangers and telling them about his granddaughter.

Also: I screwed up and had to move back in with my parents at 20 (humiliating moment of my life!) and when we got pregnant the first time, we were living with my parents. It wasn't my proudest moment by a long shot. We ended up barely moved out by the time our first came along. AND we've moved back in with his mom as parents of 2...now we are on our own. I swore I'd never live with our parents when I became a parent...I was wrong!

Everything happens for a reason and I'm only telling you these things above to let you know that feelings do change and people grow...and that you can do anything you want as long as your heart is in it. This is not the easiest choice in the world and what ever happens is gonna be scary, but you're a strong person and you have support, I don't know you really well but I'm here

[Psycho Penguin]

So you have unprotected sex and OMG you're pregnant and let's get an abortion.. the attitude of young people nowadays is truly amazing.

[Keezheekoni]

I had a similar situation to the previous poster about the parents...

I was 16 when I got pregnant... My dad didn't talk to me from the minute he found out (on Father's Day no less) until my ex called him letting him know I was in the hospital in labor. My dad didn't even call my mom at work, he rushed to the hospital on his own, and held my hand during my entire labor. When my son was born he was the proudest grandpa in that place... He and my son have an incredible bond now, he's kinda the son my dad never had (yes, I have a brother but he's not into sports or anything else my dad likes, whereas my son is exactly like my dad).

So, don't be so scared about your parents' reaction... if you're going to keep the baby, they'll come around eventually. Though, it might help if you and your bf both go get jobs (anything, even the "menial" McD's is better than no job), and prove that you're willing to do anything to take care of your baby.