[soso]

HI Nicole

I for one, think you are being VERY responsible in this situation.

I won't comment on anybody elses's posts...it is your body, your life, your decision (and your loved one's to help if you so choose)

Every or any course of action open to you now will have it's difficulties and I know that you know that.
Please accept a pat on the back from me for being adult enough to take the time to think rather than rushing in to a decision.

xx

[Jan B]

Originally Posted by lugnut48

We just had ours last week Sunday - it is an amazing gift to have a child. I'm not sure why anyone would want to be selfish because it's inconvenient for them to have a child so they instead destroy that gift.

There's always the selfless decision of putting him / her up for adoption - that way everyone wins! You get out of having to grow up and be responsible and the child lives! Win-win situation in my opinion.

Good luck!

Your input may not receive much weight (even though it's really very "heavy"), because it is the harder road to travel. Very few young people seem to take the high road (ducking for cover). I didn't.

My one and only little brother is adopted -- we brought him home when he was 7 weeks old. I'll thank his birth mother for the rest of my life.

[genie86333]

Nicole,

A video about abortion made you tear up. Think about it - that was a video about someone else's baby, someone you don'teven know. Now imagine remembering that video & the way it made you feel on a regular basis for the rest of your life. That wouldn't be a very good thing, and just imagine how much worse it would be if it was your own baby.

I wasn't much older than you were when I got pregnant with my son, and I wasn't in much better circumstances, but I can't even imagine not having had him. He was adopted & he's now a healthy 16-year-old. I don't get to see him (although I do get an occasional brief update) but at least I know he's out there & he's ok.

Ultimately, it's your choice, but think of how it's going to affect you in the long run - it may be harder than actually raising the baby!

[aeromarv]

Originally Posted by Psycho Penguin

So you have unprotected sex and OMG you're pregnant and let's get an abortion.. the attitude of young people nowadays is truly amazing.

I'm glad someone said it.

There doesn't seem to be any responsibility these days to face up to the repercussions of your actions. Whether its getting pregnant because you had unprotected sex, losing millions of dollars for your business and destroying the retirement of thousands, or commiting a crime.

The statement about knowing you could get pregnant and having sex anyway proves it. Now that you're pregnant, you want out cause you're not ready. You should have thought about that before hand.

I'm sorry, but take some responsibility.

[owlyn]

Originally Posted by aeromarv

I'm glad someone said it.

There doesn't seem to be any responsibility these days to face up to the repercussions of your actions. Whether its getting pregnant because you had unprotected sex, losing millions of dollars for your business and destroying the retirement of thousands, or commiting a crime.

The statement about knowing you could get pregnant and having sex anyway proves it. Now that you're pregnant, you want out cause you're not ready. You should have thought about that before hand.

I'm sorry, but take some responsibility.

Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

[RedRD]

There are no false-positives, just false negatives. Make an appt - they might do an ultrasound on your first visit since you're considered high risk.

Make sure you check your sugar frequently - make an appt w/your endocrinologist, too. My sugars were great (A1c less than 5) with both of my pregnancies, and my babies both weighed 8#, 9oz (big, not too big).

congratulations - and take care of yourself!!

[David_S]

When my wife got pregnant the first time.. we were just starting out and it was a whoops moment.. well we had twins. We were not prepared for one.. we were in a one bedroom apartment. Everything did change.. no it wasn't easy.. in fact with twins we were really challenged to meet their needs.. financially and even emotionally.. it was something else having two at a time. But it was a double blessing.. and it makes you stronger. We had decided that they would be it for us.. and then we thought.. well one more. We have a another son and he is just as amazing.. and he was planned but the same parenting challenges came with him.. as well as expenses and everything changed again.. the twins had a brother.. and we were now 5 in the house.
I don't know how old this is.. if you have made a decision.. but I am hoping for the best for you.
My wife had a miscarriage after the twins.. when we tried for our son. She still wonders about that child.. because he had been there.. in her. It wasn't the same for me.. I could only watch her deal and offer support.. but it is the woman who carries it all and is affected the most. Take care.

[princesslinda]

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