HELP! I'm Getting Desperate!!!

Princess_In_KS · #1 (**permalink**) 01-12-2006, 09:07 AM

This is so hard for me to ask

- I'm not a very open person when it comes to this stuff, but how many of you have experienced sexual side effects??

About 4 months ago I had a serious infection which led to the downfall of my pancreatic activity, at that time I lost ALL interest in sex.

Period. I've been on insulin (rapid & long acting) for about a month now & really hoped that my libido would pick back up, it hasn't. Will it ever?

I'm a 30 year old female who used to really enjoy intimate activities

& now just the thought makes my skin crawl, which really sucks cause I'm a newlywed - married for 5 months. My husband has been supportive the best way he knows how, but now his ego is being damaged by my lack of interest.

I need some advice, is this normal? are there some vitamins out there that will help with this? does it go away - if so, when??

Thanx Guys!
Heather

Linda57 · #2 (**permalink**) 01-12-2006, 10:01 AM

Heather, thank you very much for asking this question, I am having the same problem, and cant get anyone to listen.........my nurse suggested that I have lost my sex drive because I am drepressed, I pointed out that the reason I am depressed is because I have lost my sex drive!!

Aftiel · #3 (**permalink**) 01-12-2006, 10:02 AM

Hey Heather,

Since I am a guy, I can't really give a good response to your quesrtion, however I did have an observation:

4 months ago was the infection.

You have only been on insulin for 1 month.

Lots of things there in only 5 months for your body to be adjusting to.

I know that for your husband - 5 months might seem like a lifetime, but in the grand scheme of things, it is the blink of an eye.

Talk to your Doctor and relax. Stress will kill a libido fast - give your body some time to adjust to taking insulin.

-Aftiel

Cinnabon · #4 (**permalink**) 01-12-2006, 11:51 AM

Your body is going hrough a lot of change right now. You have to give it some time. BIG HUG!

Princess_In_KS · #5 (**permalink**) 01-12-2006, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Linda57

Heather, thank you very much for asking this question, I am having the same problem, and cant get anyone to listen.........my nurse suggested that I have lost my sex drive because I am drepressed, I pointed out that the reason I am depressed is because I have lost my sex drive!!

You have NO idea how good it feels to know I am NOT alone in this!!! My doc says the same thing about depression. Well, I have been depressed before & never lost the need for intimacy!!!

It feels like I have some sort of "force field" around my body - NOTHING turns me on anymore. I feel very numb.

Thanks so much for sharing - I really am thinking of getting some of those 'Enhancement Vitamins'. If I do & they work I will definitely pass on the info.

Oh, Cin & Aftiel thanks for the hug & support!!

Simon · #6 (**permalink**) 01-13-2006, 06:20 AM

I had a slight drop in sex drive last year when I started on insulin but I think this was more down to worry about having a hypo during sex than a chemically induced thing. Now that I'm more familiar with my condition the sex drive's back to full force.

Doing other things with your husband that you really enjoy might help bring the vrrroomm.
I do feel for you. Best of luck.

KickStart101 · #7 (**permalink**) 01-15-2006, 03:57 AM

Hi Princess: Well, as usual I'm the one in minority. I'm very sorry for what you have been going through, don't doubt that. You are now over your infection, you are on Insulin and feeling better. You've been married for
5 months and your libido didn't come back with you from the honey moon.
Well, vitamins aren't going to bring it back. Sometimes mens and womens sex drive isn't there. So what. If your Hubbie wants sex and I sure wouldn't blame him, what's the problem?. It's okay once in a while to say no for a good reason, but that's a long time. You can tell him that you don't wanna play or get excited, etc., that's your choice. There are positions that you can feel secure in while he is doing his thing. If you offer yourself to him and he says No, then that's fine. At least you will feel good about yourself.
If you love your Hubbie, you will compromise and be there for him as he has done for you. That's what marriage is all about. Look after your Future.
I'm sorry, if I've hurt your feelings but you asked everyone's opinion and that's mine. Take Care.

VanDamage · #8 (**permalink**) 01-15-2006, 05:29 AM

i lost my sexual appetite when i first was diagnosed and on insulin but my honeymoon it seems i got it back it would interesting to see if i lose it again if i go back on insulin.keep your chin up and maybe you should goto another doctor for a 2nd opinon t osee if you can do anything about it.

jeggeman31 · #9 (**permalink**) 01-15-2006, 06:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Simon

worry about having a hypo during sex

I hat when that happens !

Simon · #10 (**permalink**) 01-16-2006, 10:34 AM

Someone once said:

A man needs to have sex to be happy; a woman needs to be happy to have sex

I'm not sure what you do if you're unhappy because you don't want sex but if you work it out let me know so I can tell my girlfriend.

drewgolden · #11 (**permalink**) 01-18-2006, 04:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Princess_In_KS

This is so hard for me to ask

- I'm not a very open person when it comes to this stuff, but how many of you have experienced sexual side effects??

Oddly enough, I need to be above 120 for all systems to operate normally. So I need to plan and make sure I am /above/ my normal target range. I just bring a can of pepsi with me to the activities.

Once you get past the shots and changes to your lifestyle, it's really no big deal. Taking shots and testing for me is like drinking water and getting dressed; you do it so much you don't even think about it.

Cheer up, and keep above 120 for that stuff, you'll be fine.