[amyjo29]

Not to get extremely personal on this but... I would like to have another child someday and am worried about what it's going to do to my diabetes. I had GD with my little one and as many of you know sugars didn't return to normal. I am at the VERY beginning stages of diabetes and control it through diet and exercise. I get a high number occasionally so I really don't have to much to worry about at this point. Just keeping positive and really watching what I eat. I HOPE this early stage will last for years and years until it begins to progress more. Anyway, during my last trimester I went into a VERY deep depression because of the diabetes. I was so worried about what it was doing to her. One month I could barely eat cause she was pressed up on my stomach. I was in the hopital twice from a stomach flu. I lost 25 pounds!!!!! The combination from all of this set me into the deep depression. I was told by the doctors I shouldn't have more kids because of what happened. I was almost admitted into a psych ward! I had always planned on 2 kids but I'm scared about my diabetes. Do you think it will make it worse?

[slipperyelm]

Plenty of healthy babies are born to T-2 diabetics everyday. I have never heard of pregnancy making T-2 worse, but sometimes it has to be managed differently during pregnancy. I would be concerned about preganancy with diabetes making those depression problems recur. Is that what you meant by you were told by the doctors that you shouldn't have anymore kids?

However, you seem like someone whose fears, regret, and worries would be minimized by having full information ahead of time. Do everything you can to educate yourself about pregnancy and diabetes before you get pregnant. That way you can have full confidence and fewer worries, I think. To get full information, you can:

--Read other threads here about pregnancy, childbirth and diabetes;
--Talk to your OB-GYN at length, Schedule an appointment specifically and exclusively for this conversation, telling the doctor ahead of time that this is why you are coming to see him/her.
--Join an internet forum on the topic (I've seen one.)
--Go to your library and read sections on preganacy in every diabetes book you can find.
--Find an OB-GYN who specializes in diabetic mothers.

Do all this before you even make a decision to concieve. However, if your problem is more essentially depression than it is diabetes or concern about diabetes, then you would need to focus on preventing depression, which takes different tactics.

Assuming your mate is the same who went through the first pregnancy with you, I would allow your mate's opinion to weigh heavily on this. They know you. They know more about what kind of state you are in, what kind of state you able to get into, and how you may have learned to cope or not since the first preganancy.

[volleyball]

You do have a difficult decision to make. First, would like another, how important is it to you and your husband? How does it compare to your health risk? All pregnancies are a risk. You have a couple of issues to deal with. The depression may be handle if you have a good support group in place before you start. The diabetes may mean that you get yourself into really good shape over the next year, exercising and eating properly and then continuing throughout your pregnancy and picking up afterwards. I think the big babies is more because of the "license to eat like a pig" that some women feel. While I am all for letting a woman eat, you'd think the thought that you are what you eat and they are building a new life would eat the best they can.
The good food and exercise should help. Seek out several doctors for their input.
And wish you luck.

[amyjo29]

Good points have been made. My husband would like to have another and I would love to give my daughter a sibling. I think the doctors are more worried about the depression and OCD than the diabetes. I have OCD so you can imagine how obsessed I was with the numbers. I was so obsessed about doing everything perfect because I didn't want to do any harm to her and with the OCD I think it went way over board because of the pregnancy hormones. It has always been my plan to have 2 kids and his as well... but like it was said...is it worth the health risk? I go back to my endocrinologist in october so I'll have a talk with her about all of this.

[peacelover]

I am in a similar boat (mentally and physically). I'm 33 now, recently diagnosed diabetic. I am really borderline (fasting numbers ok, 2 hour glucose 204). I've been doing well with eating very healthy and exercising. My husband and I just got married 2 years old and have been putting off having kids because we just "weren't sure". Plus he is still going to school to get his PhD. We thought we would get "busy" when he was done. Well, now that I'm diabetic, I worry it's too late. I don't want to worsen my diabetes of cause health risks to my child. I have read that being pregnant doesn't worsen your diabetes, but how can it not if you can get gestational diabetes just from being pregnant in the first place?

I also have anxiety/panic disorder and have been on celexa for about 6 years now doing very well. I always worried about passing that issue along to a child and now I will pass along the diabetes card. I'm not sure it's worth it....

Just wanted to let you know you aren't alone. I too see my doctor in october and was going to discuss this with them =) we can compare notes...I wish you luck. I'm happy you made it through with one happy and healthy baby =)

[amyjo29]

we do need to compare notes to see what the doctors say. It will be interesting to know what each has to say. I am going to be researching things on the net and reading up on diabetes and pregnancy.