[Loves to Cheer]

hey guys, my name is emma. i am 15 years old with T1....and im soooo STRESSED OUT!!! I am having BOY problems....i think life was much more easy when they had COOTIES...lol....He likes me but is a jerk sometimes...i dont kno...but anywho! Ummm my diabetes....IT IS OUT OF WACK!!! my blood sugar is up to over 500 at least once a day and sometimes even higher! But i a getting better with it. Many of you kno how it is to prolly not want to check your blood and stuff...They guy i am talking about is also diabetic and we both clash well....but if our blood is both high then put us in 2 rooms and you will be lucky if we dont fight!! lol!! My DAD!!!! OMG!!! he pulls on my strings WAY to much!! he makes me sooo mad...i kno he loves me and wants me to be healthy but he just pulls a little to much sometimes...but well he is making me do something i will Be back later!! Everybody that can W/B please do!! thanks!! <3 Emma!!!!

[Mick]

Emma--

I hear ya, as a diabetic teenager myself--once upon a time, long ago... and I'm gonna let you in on a secret--as a dad of a teenager and as a high school teacher--the adults in your life who love you, and whose responsibility it is to make sure you are healthy and safe, are doing right by you. A BG reading of 500+ every day is going to start messing stuff up in your body, I'm serious. Bad stuff is brewing there, inside you, when your sugars are that high. This is a seriously deadly disease, and in a way, it's not for kids--but we tend to do it better than adults anyway! I got it when I was 13--that was 41 years ago. The only reason I'm alive, not to mantion perfectly healthy, today, is that I had to grow up really fast and be an adult about this disease. You have to be incredibly mature to "do diabetes" well enought to not damage your body. Ok, with that much said, let's get on the the other stuff--boys.

YOU are more important that any relationship with any boy, especially at this age. And the problem here is, at your age, with hormonal stuff going on, that messes with your glucose levels. Stress also messes with your sugars. So you are forced to dodge curveballs all the time, making you more stressed, and that whackes out your hormones and your relationship with this boy--and on and on, it's a vicious cycle, a dog chasing its tail round and round. Get off the circle and sit out a few rounds--cool down, time yourself out from this boy--of boys in general--for a few weeks. You'll both survive, and hopefully you can get some control of your sugars, which will help you be a calmer, less stressed and more in-control person. Making everybody happier--you, your boy friend and, most importantly, your parents, who need to trust you for then to give you some measure of freedom and responsibility. My own son is 16 now--no girlfriend yet, and I'm just as happy--he's not dealing with the fights, the break-ups, the expectations and the craziness, thus devoting more attention to his schoolwork--and getting straight A's in the process.

Us diabetics do have to have different priorities than other teens, that's just the deal we got signed up for, like it or not. don't worry--you will learn how to do all the relationship stuff you need to and with any luck can find the guy for you someday. I married my best friend from high school 33 years ago, after never once even having a girlfriend...! Maybe it was because by then, I was so much more mature and responsible than the other jerky boys...

This disease is never easy, but it makes you a strong and disciplined person. You'll be fine--just get the diabetes under as strict control as you can.

Michael
41 years T1

[archimeech]

Man, do I remember the fun of being a diabetic teenager! Not only do you have the raging hormones, and social issues to deal with, but on top of that throw in a crazy thing like Diabetes and it's just plain hard sometimes. My sugars were all over the place too, but that's probably more because I didn't take care of myself. do yourself a favor, honey. Learn to take care of the diabetes now, don't wait like I did, until you're in your late 20s and start then. You'll be in much better health and much more happy later on if you do.

As to the 2 men in your life. I've got a daughter, and Dads are just Dads, no matter how hard or mean he sounds, I'm sure if he's like me, he does it because he loves you too much to see you this way. Remember to talk to him, not just run from his yelling.

The boyfriend is another story. As far as I'm concerned, my daughter can start dating when she's about 43 years old! I was a teenage boy, and I know what's going on in those brains of theirs! But, you're still very young. Enjoy life and take is easy. You're still learning how to interact with guys and they have no clue as to how to interact with you. It'll probably take him 10 years to figure it out!

[Cyborg]

Perhaps you should concentrate more on your bg and less on the boys...

[Stuboy]

im lucky not to have been a teenager in school with this...

Can you not both help each other out? You're both in the same position and know exactly what's going on... use it to help each other and not fight with each other!

[gettingby]

Ok, I know that you were probably expecting to hear from the "younger" set on here but I want to tell ya a few things.
I was diagnosed at the age of 13(35, now) and having diabetes as a teen was tough.
On the boys topic: Boys are gonna come and go but your diabetes and your health are with you forever. You have to find the right balance between boys, every day life, and diabetes. You can't let the diabetes control you, you have to control it !!!! You can get those numbers down, it's just gonna take finding out what works for you.
On the dad topic: I wish that I would have had a dad around to hound me in my teen years. Mine died when I was 6 years old . Just remember that what he says and does is done out of love, not out of a desire to hound you or "yank your chain".
Just hang in there and know that we are all here to help you. You can get control over this disease. YOU CAN DO IT !!!!!! PM me anytime if you need support.

[am1977]

So sorry to hear things are so stressful for you right now... Going through school and dealing with various issues are difficult enough without adding Diabetes into the mix.

I was also lucky in that I didn't have this disease while going through school. But you are far from alone as you can see from the responses you have already received.

I'm sure it's nice to have a friend with whom you can relate to about this disease, and I'm sure you care about him, but you have to think of whether this relationship is doing you more harm than good... If you are always stressed out then I don't think that's a good thing. As we all know, stress can drive sugar levels up. .

You are still very young and you'll have plenty of time for boyfriends in the future. BUt in the meantime, I would relax a little about this guy. I'm not saying don't be friends with him, but maybe a break from him is in order. At least until you can get your blood sugar to cooperate.

Best of luck- we're here for you if you need us.

[Catie and Emily]

Hey! im 17 going on ehh lets say 25, but no im going on 18 and for me i dont stress that much unless its close to midterms, finals or driving. and well today my computers screen died and i got totally stressed about that bcz I CANT live without my computer, its my baby..lifeline to the normal world outside this farm community.

But as we can say for me my bgs are cotrolled but they do rise due to the little things bcz of schooling finals, or driving when im in a hurry and gonna be late for class, and somebody is going 45 on a 55 mph road. But guyz so do the boys at times. I get along great w. them, its more of the girls that are annoying bcz of the gossip, and each girl haivng their on click and all that ya kno. but i mean we do argue but i respect myself, and do whats best for me, before everything else comes. But i shouldnt be talkin bout that either, bcz I do get so caught up into my social life, or my school work that i dont tend to eat a lunch or dinner. And sports conflict w. that bcz swimming 3 to 4 times a day and having to pack a schedule so it fits my needs.

Catie

[TenderVittleS]

Here's a little trick, get your BS under control and POOF! all problems are gone! The higher your BS the more rowdy you get and I've had mine since I was 6 years old. The combination of hormones and high blood sugar at that age is asking for trouble. Just try your best.

[GregGolden]

Do something you enjoy, reelllaaaxxxx. Go to the gym, read, go to the beach, do what you want to do and things will look up. Good luck getting those numbers down!

[otep]

Originally Posted by Loves to Cheer

hey guys, my name is emma. i am 15 years old with T1....and im soooo STRESSED OUT!!! I am having BOY problems....i think life was much more easy when they had COOTIES...lol....He likes me but is a jerk sometimes...i dont kno...but anywho! Ummm my diabetes....IT IS OUT OF WACK!!! my blood sugar is up to over 500 at least once a day and sometimes even higher! But i a getting better with it. Many of you kno how it is to prolly not want to check your blood and stuff...They guy i am talking about is also diabetic and we both clash well....but if our blood is both high then put us in 2 rooms and you will be lucky if we dont fight!! lol!! My DAD!!!! OMG!!! he pulls on my strings WAY to much!! he makes me sooo mad...i kno he loves me and wants me to be healthy but he just pulls a little to much sometimes...but well he is making me do something i will Be back later!! Everybody that can W/B please do!! thanks!! <3 Emma!!!!

Hi Emma, I'm not diabetic but my grandma is. I join forums to ask help from people with experience with the condition. anyway, I agree with the other people say in this thread. You should value yourself more not to mention your health for you to enjoy your teenage years. I mean, i for one, knows that it is one of the best, if not the happiest days of ones life. Why not try to get a pet it works for my grandmother. If you are stresed out a pet will help...

[Simon]

I know I'm not a trendy teenager (I'm not sure I ever was) but what is W/B?

Sort the sugars and ignore everything else until you do. If they can't cope with that then so be it. Your Dad will have to learn and your boyfriend will have to go.

[jenet]

Originally Posted by Simon

I know I'm not a trendy teenager (I'm not sure I ever was) but what is W/B?

I'm no teenager either, but I'm guessing "write back".

cheers,
j