[giggs]

Some thing I did for my boyfriend was A: cooked for him and I every meal that I possibly could. B: made/ordered my meals the way he should be eating. C: When we/I go shopping We/I make sure to only buy the food he could eat and I personally satisfy my cravings during my personal time, ie, in my car or at school. Eating like a diabetic has helped me lose a pound or two....just an incentive, for me at least.

[jleonard]

Wow, that's tough. He has probably given up emotionally
thinking that your health efforts are worthy while his are already past. I am a diabetic and feel that way a lot myself.
I don't know about others but I tend to find myself isolating from the family without really trying. In some weird way it feels as if I can pull away more, then maybe if something happens they won't miss me as much.

Even though I am writing this and understand the stupidity of it all, it doesn't change the emotional feelings. My wife is good at saying "darling, we're a couple. I am following your example. It's not about the length of life, but what we do together in the now."

I would just make it clear that hiding behind blood pressure is no longer a valid response. He is deflecting and using manipulation of your emotions to withdraw. Also, I'm sure any of us would be happy to talk to him just to say hi. He's not alone in feeling overwhelmed. I would even call.

OK, on the way over the top scale - maybe find a way to illustrate the need for a decision. Maybe a nice pancake breakfast on the table. You know the beautiful morning kind with that buttermilk pancake smell all through the house.

Now picture a big jug of car antifreeze poured over it like syrup. Yeah, the nice green kind. The jug is sitting up there next to the butter. With a simple 'breakfast is ready' and wait for the surprised look. Encourage a big bite.

When you get the 'are you freaking crazy' line... get his attention and make this point: There is no difference between eating poison and killer food. The antifreeze would atleast be quick It's time to either get busy living or dying - his choice.

A word picture may be overkill but it can definately have a long lasting impression. Again just personal perspective...

[CarrieScott]

Originally Posted by smaj611

i was diagnosed at age 8 and i am now 17. Somehow i have lost track of my diabetes. it has been a very long time since i had good control and i am sick of it. i am very busy with school, work, and other activities. i have tried hard to keep track of blood sugars and insulin but i just can't keep with it. also my mom is disappointed everytime i have a slightly high blood sugar which makes me not want to do them because i'll just end up lying about it. is there anyone having the same issues that can give me advice? at this point i'm desperate.

I went through something very similar. I was out of control from 18-23. I drank/partied heavily and went without taking any insulin for months at a time. I don't even know how I managed not to make it to the emergency room.

My mom was always hounding me about it too. I would never take care of myself for anybody else. I had to make the decision to admit I had T1, and I can't live like everybody else. It's still hard, and I'm not perfect, but I'm making progress.

Something that I think is really important is to have support. I find my biggest support comes from having a good doctor that I respect and trust, my husband, and online resources (like this forum )

Good luck!! Keep us posted on your progress, and feel free to PM me with questions.

[xMenace]

I had two homemade waffles last Saturday with butter and maple syrup with my son. mmmmm! The best meal I've had this year. The bonding was possibly better than the food. My BGs peaked at 9.3/167. Complete confidence and no guilt. When you know how to attack these things properly, you can eat just about anything.

Make it a goal to get your A1C below 6.5. Add a 2nd objective to your BG testing: understanding your profiles -- basals, responses at each meal times, responses to different foods, responses to exercise, etc. Once you start to understand how your body is working, your monitoring (objective #1) becomes much more meaningful.

Get at 'er Pontiac!

[marchez]

It is time for a reality check!!!

All the work, effort, and activities you are focusing on mean nothing in the long-term if you begin to develop serious complications from D, which is a real possbility depending on how long you haven't been caring about your condition.

I was just diagnosed 2 months ago (age 28). It has not been easy. Everybody wants to know my BG numbers, scruntinizes my food choices, and wants me to take it easy. The people who care about you will ultimatley become annoying and frustrating because they don't feel at ease unless they know and are confident in your ability to take care of yourself. If you consistently show this type of 'anti-healthy' behavior you will never achieve the independance and health you are seeking.

This is a lifestyle change for the better. Focus on your Diabetes and your routine to manage this disease and the choices you make will become smarter ones (in all areas of your life). Once you start the transition you will be happier and so will the people who care about you.

Best of luck and remember that your heath comes first - before anything.