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sugardumplin

"Don't feed the animals"

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sugardumplin

You ever seen this on a sign somewhere? I feel like I need a sign on my office door or a tshirt to wear. I feel like people are always trying to feed me. Giving me things I shouldnt eat. And I dont know why. Maybe they feel like they are being naughty by giving me something that is only going to kill me sooner than expected. Or maybe they feel like they are doing me a favor by helping me cheat a lil. I can't figure it out, but I need to concentrate more on saying no.

 

Example:

My coworkers... One brings me a cadbury egg 2 days in a row. Terrible. Absolutely terrible.

 

My aunt Mae....l LOVE HER TO DEATH! - drove several miles to bring me a box of PEEPS bunnies at my work. PEEPS? How could I tell her no. she went out of her way to bring me those. I have eaten 4 of them and 8 of them are staring at me from my desk corner.

 

My mother.... every morning and every evening when I drop off and pick up my daughter, she tries to give me candy, and food. yummy, but I am not supposed to have this stuff. but if I say no, she is like.... oookkkkaayyyy. are you sure? just a little.

 

My sisters.... still kids 16,18. they sneak me a piece of a candy bar they are eating, or they bring little mini candybars when they come to my house.

 

 

and when tempted, I almost cant say no and I feel guilty if I do. And I say I am not gonna eat it, and then eventually, I will. unconsciously

 

It might not be so bad if I only had one person tempting me a day or a week. But it seems to be several of them everyday.

 

 

Yes I should be grown up enough to say no. Yet I can't. I compare it to an alcoholic being offered alcohol. ADDICTION.

 

anyone else have this problem?

 

Perhaps if I start biting their fingers when they offer me things......

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gettingby

Been there, done there, still there at times. LOL.

And the comment about biting the fingers off, LMAO !!! :rofl:

 

A lot of times when well meaning people do this, I accept graciously and share or give it to my hubby, daughter, co-workers, whomever it may be. Christmas was a bad time for this. One of our frequent customers brought me cookies. Yes, she knows I'm a diabetic (she has seen my pump and knows what it's for) but her "thinking" is that since I'm on insulin, I can have whatever I want (and I do, to a certain limit). I bolused and had one of her wonderful cookies in front of her and gave the rest to a co-worker for her son.

 

So yeah, it happens to a lot of us. The main thing here is willpower.:)

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foxl

Thankfully, NO!

 

The worst I get is the food porn descriptions of what my friends eat at a restaurant. Thanksabunch!

 

Sounds to me like you have some people who are trying to defeat you ... or trying to get a rise out of you. so unfortunately the best thing you can do is keep CALM and smile ... then come vent here. They will eventually get bored if you consistently do not react.

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davef

Doesn't happen much any more, I have trained most of the people around me :D

 

In fact last week in the office a co-worker called in to ask if people wanted a sandwich, I was busy on a call and said yeah, bacon on white bread (d'oh), but she arrived with bacon on wholemeal, she said you stopped eating white bread didn't you? - see well trained co-worker!

 

Yesterday I was with a class on a school outing, after a 2.5 hour walk the kids were having lunch, we adults had all brought a packed lunch, one of the mothers produced some muffins and was offering them around, I declined, then another mother said go on have one and a third chimed in at that point, so I said "no thanks, I am diabetic", that stopped them in their tracks :) none of the them knew, as I'm a bit of joker I was asked if I was only joking so I showed them my test kit and they believed me. I did explain that I can of course have a muffin but that I generally choose not to.

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BigcityRich

My Kyrptonite is stuff at the office. Although I am not working right now, I was working in an office where there were treats nearly everyday. Cookies, Candy, cake, bagels and donuts in the morning.

 

I have great willpower at home and at the grocery store, but none at work.

 

and then I get "...are you supposed to be eating that?"...

 

We just cannot win.

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princesslinda

I work in a doctor's office and we are "fed" regularly by the drug reps. One day it was pizza for lunch...followed by an "ice cream" snack in the afternoon. We regularly have Krispy-Kreme donuts brought in...I consider Krispy-Kreme donuts to be the devil! It's so hard to resist.

 

I try and always have something on hand to appease my sweet tooth, but a nice cup of sugar-free pudding does not any way compete with a donut!

 

The sad part of it all is that I work with several (4) other T2 diabetics, all on either oral meds or diet controlled, and they have no problem eating a donut, several slices of pizza and washing it all down with "real" Coke. So far none have had any health problems, but it's hard to be the only one NOT having the "good stuff." Work is hard.....:(

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Marcia K in Fl

One friend of mine offered cookies around and because she knew I was diabetic she buzzed by me and said I am not asking you because you are a diabetic, and left. I was glad not to have the temptation but angry she did not let me make the choice...lol. I sat and thought about that alot because I probably would have taken it...

 

Then a box of donuts came in. I do not care for donuts, but I wanted them. So I took them around the office and let everyone take them to get rid of them. It felt empowering to be in control. I did feel guilty about giving them poison though...lol

 

Such is our lives...:o

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princesslinda

I think we all have our days....and some days I want it just because I know I can't have it. I think i'd work well with some type of invisible fencing device that I could put around things I don't need, then be "zapped" when I got within "X" feet of them. ...hmmmm, food deterrent collars, I might be on to something!:D

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Marcia K in Fl

Make sure you make those collars pretty. Every girl needs a princess collar! Oh the men could have manly ones...think of the money you will make!

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BigcityRich

A funny thing happens in my house.

 

My wife sometimes brings treats into the house. Chips, ice cream, popcicles and sometimes I am temped and get "caught".

 

I always tell her I am "getting all this evil out of the house". LOL

 

Its very funny, and we often tease each other about "looking for evil" in the pantry and the fridge.

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sumi

It really isn't any different to me, than being on any diet. Some people actually think that they are HELPING you to 'cheat'. It's as if you are in school and going to get that gold star if only the teacher doesn't catch on. The goal of keeping your eyesight and feet among other things must just seem so petty to them. Whether your goal is losing weight or controlling your bg level it seems to me the height of bad manners to inflict your own lack of discipline on someone else. I get angry just hearing about these things and believed that I would have no problem berating anyone who dared to try it. Luckily my friends and family are not like this. However, through a series of events I ended up having Xmas dinner with a neighbor at her son and daughter-in-law's house.

My neighbour is great, but the other two kept pushing goodies and drinks all night. It was all I could do to be polite; they knew that I was diabetic, but actually became more and more pushy. So Virtuous Me was too much of a wimp to really stand up to them-however, I did not eat a single chocolate, cookie, tart, cake, pudding, potato chip, ice cream, or liquer. I really stood my ground and only ate turkey (white and dark meat) potatoes, yams, broccoli, two kinds of stuffing, gravy, seafood appetizers, olives, cranberries, oh, and a glass of wine. So there!!

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EeyoreButterfly

That's a good point about the diet. When I started Weight Watchers I would have friend all the time tell me, "It's just one meal." But just one meal became just two and well, you get the picture.

 

I actually don't mind if people offer me food as long as they don't make a fuss if I decline. I prefer it that way. There are a lot of myths out there about diabetes and what we can and cannot do. I am an adult and am perfectly aware of what i should or should not eat at any given time and am perfectly capable of making that decision. I would rather be treated like everybody else than have my diabetes become a stigma and have the choice taken away from me. The one thing my parents learned real quick was to not be the food police.

 

My problem is, as soon as you ask if I should have it or tell me that I shouldn't (especially if you are not exactly knowledgeable about diabetes) then this perverse side of my nature kicks in and I want to have it just to spite you.

 

I think a lot of it is that as a kid I was constantly being told I couldn't do certain things because of my height, especially when I played sports, and I had to learn how to compensate for it. I also learned that I often had to prove to people that I was capable of doing something (still do to an extent) and that has definitely carried over into other aspects of my life as well.

 

ETA: I love your title for the thread. It reminds me of when I was a theme park performer, one of our break rooms was called the "Zoo" and there was a sign on the wall that said, "Do not feed the *performers*" It always made me laugh.

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AngelKitty

Yes I have seen this sign - my family apply it to me! :(

Lucky You!!!!!

I have the exact opposite problem with my family!!!

My mum is terriffied to feed me anything with sugar in it.

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PrettynPurple

Back Away from the Bunnies :D

 

put them in a drawer, outa site, outa mind

 

or better yet give them to me :D

 

<~~~~is one of those T2 on oral meds that can eat pizza, fries (within moderation) and not spike too bad

 

but i drink diet sodie

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rotcoddam

Without knowing the people offering a diabetic sweets, I might be way off base. But it seems like a lot of these sorts of folks are like the dog owners who call on Cesar Millan "The Dog Whisperer". They are not mean; they are overly generous. But they are filling THEIR needs - the need to nurture - , not the needs of the dog. In the long run, we don't do anyone (dogs or people) favors by doing them too many favors. They become dependent and don't learn boundaries and independence and self-confidence.

 

These people who are trying to feed you are trying to meet THEIR needs, not YOUR needs. They see you as a sweet and cuddly person, the poor victim of a disease who needs their sympathy and love and affection. But you are an adult and strong and independent and if you want to take care of your diabetes with diet and exercise that is your choice - and a good one!!.

 

So where does that lead us with advice on how to deal with it? I have little to no idea...

I guess it depends on your personality style. You could let them continue their giving behavior and just throw away whatever they give you, or try to get them to change. Simply say "No thanks" without explanation every time, until they give up and stop; or be rude, be sarcastic, be mean, be kind, whatever - go with your strengths (and their weaknesses, LOL). Maybe suggest that they turn their nurturing feelings to someone who is less able to care for themselves than you are.

 

 

Geez, Isn't this disease complicated enough already?

 

Rotcoddam

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Hammer

I guess I'm lucky that way. I have no desire to eat anything sweet, and will turn away from sweets and instead have a bowl of broccoli....or a salad. I love vegetables, and will eat them raw, cooked, whatever. Most people know this about me and don't offer me anything sweet.

 

For those people who know I'm diabetic (not many do) and offer me something that I shouldn't have, I'll politely decline. If they insist, or make the comment, "One piece won't hurt you." I respond with, "If I eat that piece now, next week they'll be amputating my feet. I prefer to keep my feet, so I'll skip the food.....wouldn't you?" This usually quiets them.:)

 

Once in a while someone will continue trying to offer me something by saying, "Oh come on, one piece won't make that much of a change in your condition!" I'll respond by saying, "No, you're right....one piece won't affect my condition, but you're not the only one constantly offering me something I shouldn't have. If I gave in and ate something every time someone offered it to me, then the total accumulation of "cheating" will affect my condition, so what should I do?....eat what you have and not eat what the next person tries to force on me? How should I decide who's food I should cheat with and who's food I should not cheat with, without hurting someone's feelings? Instead I prefer to avoid all of those foods and not cheat at all."

 

Of course it's rare that someone will continue the conversation and still try to get me to eat the food, but when it does happen, I'll just take the food and set it aside. If they ask me if I'm going to try it, I'll say no, I'm going to throw it away. I'll say, "I told you I don't want it, and I'm not going to argue about it. If you insist that I take it then I'll take it and throw it away, but I don't want it. I have no desire to eat it and it's bad for me so why should I eat it?"

 

If that doesn't stop their persistence, I'll throw it away in front of them. ;)

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sumi

I did post earlier about this question. Today I found out that the brother-in-law of the woman in question was rushed to emergency from work where he had collapsed. His uncontrolled diabetes has just led to the amputation of the toes of one foot, with possibly worse to follow.

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Russell A.

My co-workers just laugh when I over eat or eat **** at work. They joke around about wearing my pump out or running out of insulin.

 

Especially arond xmas and the holidays when everyone brings junk in.

 

Russell

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