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adiantum

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adiantum

After reading this , I'm glad Ive ordered a private funeral... There'll be no strippers  at my party.

Chinese authorities are cracking down on the practice of hiring strippers as funeral entertainment, a technique some rural families use to increase the turnout at a loved one's final farewell.

The country's Ministry of Culture said late last month it would be targeting "striptease" and other "obscene, pornographic and vulgar performances" at funerals and other gatherings across Henan, Anhui, Jiangsu and Hebei provinces.

It has urged witnesses to call a special hotline to report any performances, with rewards on offer for informants, according to the state-run Global Times newspaper.

"The crowd is pushed to climax, roaring with laughter, whistling, applauding and cursing," state media said.

"As the performers saunter into the audience to jiggle their breasts and rub men's crotches, a reminder of 'no photographs allowed' can occasionally be heard."

Hiring entertainment for funerals is a longstanding practice in rural China, as ensuring a high number of mourners attend the ceremony is a way of showing respect to the dead, the Global Times reported.

"Chinese rural households are more inclined to show off their disposable incomes by paying out several times their annual income for actors, singers, comedians, and — most recently, strippers — to comfort the bereaved and entertain the mourners," state media said......................................

 

http://www.abc.net.au/news/2018-02-21/china-cracks-down-on-rural-funeral-strippers/9470238

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dowling gram

Sad really that a culture would go to such lengths and spend so much to honor their loved ones. To you and I a crowd or spending lots of money does not represent our love and respect for the deceased but not everyone looks at things the same way. Even in our countries there are those who equate a big expensive funeral with lots of mourners with a way to show their love and respect. They may not have strippers but they do have all the bells and whistles.

 

To each his own. Strippers do not seem appropriate to me but I'm not about to judge what's right or wrong for other people

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adiantum

Appearances  are important to many people of all cultures and Ive heard some ask if there " were there" after having attended a funeral.

 

Ive not heard of hired performers before,  but I do know people are hired to attend a funeral to boost the numbers of attendances.

 

I'm sure I could make a good living from being a professional mourner  as I'd cry bucket loads even at a strangers funeral.

 

I refuse to go to a funeral these days as they just cut me up.

 

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samuraiguy

After my daughter had her DNA profile done and I found out the largest percentage of my heritage is Scandinavian I am planning on buying a boat for them to place my corpse to sail into the sunset as fire arrows alight it from shore ;)

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Kenton

Mine was a bit of a surprise too. I always assumed the majority would be Germanic , a bit of Scottish and some native American based on what I know of my ancestry.  Instead I found I am a mix of 32% Scandinavian, 27% British & Irish , 24% of  Germanic with around 9% native American/east Asian and surprisingly 4% West African and 8% a smattering of others. I asked my mom and yes there were rumors back in my Dads past that one of his relatives was black. I guess that like native American ancestry was something to be hidden.  Apparently a lot of my ancestors lived along rivers and coastal areas that were easily accessed by raiders in the past. Oh and I supposedly have more Neanderthal in me than 97% of the population.

So I am confused, should I hate Geico, want to go Viking, hit the pubs or want  my beer warm, while I knap flint?

 

 

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Kenton

The west African was hidden in the 8% others, if you did the math.

I doubt these results are real accurate but there are some things 23 and me showed that were accurate like skin and eye color and  smelling asparagus pee and such.

 

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dowling gram

My husband and I made our after death wishes known years ago. We lived simply all our years and we wished to go the same way but with dignity. We couldn't see spending thousands of dollars just to see us off.  We decided to forgo a funeral home and go with a crematorium service company. They provide much of what a funeral home does except a casket and wake. This service cast me $6000 including the urn. Since he died in Dec. I kept his ashes until last summer. In July we had a service at the graveyard with a small group of family and friends and laid him to rest in a small rural cemetery. This cost me another $6000 for the headstone, plot and minister. It was a lovely service and a fitting send off for a wonderful man. Afterward my son hosted a barbecue for everyone there and we did a lot of reminiscing and there was laughter and shared memories. It was just the way he would have wanted it and just the way I would too. I think I can count on my son to do the same for me.

 

My friend paid $70,000 for her husband's funeral and I don't think it was as nice as my husbands

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JohnSchroeder
24 minutes ago, dowling gram said:

My friend paid $70,000 for her husband's funeral and I don't think it was as nice as my husbands

 

 

Wow.  I'm in the wrong business.

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Kenton
1 hour ago, dowling gram said:

My friend paid $70,000 for her husband's funeral and I don't think it was as nice as my husbands

 

WOW!

I'm a veteran so the plot and headstone and liner are already taken care of if I wish.

My wife can be buried in the same grave, we just have to make our wish to do so known at first burial.

Neither of us like showy things so our service will be small and private when the time comes.

 

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dowling gram
3 hours ago, Kenton said:

 

WOW!

I'm a veteran so the plot and headstone and liner are already taken care of if I wish.

My wife can be buried in the same grave, we just have to make our wish to do so known at first burial.

Neither of us like showy things so our service will be small and private when the time comes.

 

 I suggest you scope out things now and write it down. That's what we did just in case we went together like in a car accident. We laid everything out so our son would have a minimum of decisions to make.

 

Having the name of the crematorium service,  made things so much easier when I was not in the best frame of mind. I only had to make a few phone calls to set things up. Then I could deal with the rest later after the initial shock wore off.

 

My son and I decided together where his final resting place would be. We did make a few changes to our original plan but it was easier because we did it together. Since that will be my resting place too the instructions to my son are brief and to the point. But I do have them written down with places, names and phone numbers. It's hard to make decisions when you are grieving and I want to make it as easy as possible.

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buddy7

I’m breaking all my rules: kind off a taboo subject for me, if I go before the missus I gave one of my younger daughter full autonomy to do what is considered to be the right thing. Staying in-line with my last wishes of course.

 

When I go I want things to be kept as low-keyed as possible not too much fuss, modest with a general send off, you see I’ve always hated making a fuss for about anything, most things can be sorted calmly with the utmost dignity. No ritual dancing singing or people getting together to have the last drink over my head and most definitely no obscenities. Would like to be cremated though.

 

Which reminds me have to sort that will out, my second attempt.

 

My daughter is more open about things like dying funeral etc. when we as a family have a discussion of this nature, I tend to be the first one through the door, and they found me odd and not willing to give my views to the conversation. Probably I’m different, find the subject kind of morbid.

But there again we all have to go there one day.

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TX_Clint

Truth. I really don't care what happens with my remains after I die. I'll be dead. It's up to the living to make the final decision. However, my wishes are that my body be donated to science.

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adiantum

kudos to you Clint.

 

Thats my decision to donate to science, but I want it to go to the body farm & back into the environment, while still supporting students like forensic. 

 

I've filled in the forms the uni sent me  for the donation but I have to lose weight before that date..

They wont accept overweight cadvers

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adiantum

Theres  jokes among many Australian families   whereby the male threatens to scatter the mother in laws ashes under the lemon tree.

 

Lemon trees are high nitrogen feeders  & because most men like to take aim when urinating... they head towards the lemon tree especially when at a BBQ

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meyery2k

Kala's reasoning is that I will produce acorns to feed the squirrels and create new oak trees in addition to supporting a rich ecosystem.  I will also apparently contribute to the oxygen she breathes and will help mitigate global warming.  I have a big job ahead of me...

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adiantum

My aunt was always anxious about the roots of a tree planted on a grave  next to  her husbands grave.

Anxious is an understatement ...she was freaking out over it.

I'm glad " someone" killed that tree, even though it was a lovely tree .

   She has since died & been buried next to my uncle so the tree roots wont touch her.

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