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Hammer

A question for the ladies here....

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Hammer

I watch a ton of Youtube videos, and something that I have noticed, and I wanted to ask the ladies here about....when I watch videos of people giving others a surprise gift of a kitten or puppy, the females of all ages cry.  Why do the girls/teenagers/women cry when they get a gift of a kitten or a puppy?  I mean, it's a cat or a dog, so what is there to cry about?  I realize that I have little to no emotions, so that might be why I don't understand this, but, what is it about getting a new pet that makes the females cry?  I can understand why children cry, as they have little control of their emotions at a young age, but why do teenagers and women cry?  I was hoping that some of the ladies here can explain this to me.  Of all of the videos that I have watched, I'd have to say that maybe 5% of the guys cry, and 95% of the females cry, so I couldn't help but wonder why?  Can any of the ladies here explain this to me?  I would really appreciate any input from the ladies here, and thank you to any of the ladies that respond

 

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steel

I don't cry easily or often, but I do feel emotion strongly when I feel it! I can imagine the sweetness/loving-ness lol of the gesture may make some people cry, particularly teens. They may have always wanted a puppy or kitten. And it's a fulfilled wish for them. Men aren't really allowed, so to speak, to show emotions (outside of anger?), so less of them cry I imagine..even if they were overcome with emotion or just found the creature adorable.

 

Puppies make me cry (inside lol) sometimes if I am in touch with my emotions that day, because they just look so innocent and playful. It reminds me of childhood, and that stirs emotion for me...joy, longing, melancholy, affection, love.

 

 

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Hammer

Steel, I agree that men aren't allowed to show their emotions, but I take that to a whole new level.  I inadvertently programmed myself from the age of about 5, to avoid feeling emotions.  What I found was that, when my parents would take my brother and I to someplace....an amusement park, the beach, whatever, as we got close to the place....let's say the beach, my brother would see the ocean, then say, look, "there is the ocean"!  That would make me get excited, and when that happened, it would upset my stomach and I'd have to go to the bathroom, which meant that my parents would have to stop the car at anyplace that had a restroom.  I began to realize that anything that excited me would cause me to get an upset stomach, so I decided to try and not get excited when we were close to a beach, amusement park, whatever.  When I tried this, I found that my stomach didn't get upset, so I did this every time we would go someplace that would excite me.  Eventually, I didn't have to mentally do this...it just became automatic.  Unfortunately, this thing of not getting excited about anything began to take on a life of itself.  ANYTHING that excited me became something that my subconscious would totally block out.  After having programmed myself for over 60 years of this, I no longer can control it, so anything that involves emotion, which means anything that can possibly excite me, is completely blocked out.  I never feel happy....sad....excited....remorse....anything, and I have no control over it.  Anyone that knows me says that I am a cold person, mainly because I don't feel anything, no matter what the situation is.

 

What I have done, is to replace emotions with logic, which is not a perfect swap.  When something happens that is emotional, I look at it logically and respond logically.  When my mother died several years ago, my sister called me to tell me about it. (my mother lived with my sister).  When my sister told me that our mother had died, all I could think of was a logical response...."is there anything that I can do?"  I felt nothing, I had no emotional response, since I don't feel any emotions.  My logical response was to ask if there was anything that I could do.  I mean, I loved my mother....we Skyped every other week, and she was the most important woman in my life, but I didn't feel anything, because I am unable to.

 

Anyway, that was why I asked the questions in my post above.

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dowling gram

It's the old case of gender stereotypes. Some men have been programmed to not show emotion. It's supposed to be unmanly. This is more prevalent in older men who were told they were sissies if they cried. To be manly they were supposed to be the strong silent types. Women were not put under that restraint. We were supposed to be the soft, womanly, emotional types.

 

I think younger men are more in touch with their feelings. They have become child care givers as much as women and that's a good thing

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